Worshipping Doms

3 Nov

It occurs to me that sometimes we talk about our Doms as if they’re God. 

i doubt if  this is news to anyone.   Some slaves are required to kneel and meditate on their Master every morning and evening for specified periods of time.  To contemplate what it means to be owned and how they can serve the Master.  i can’t be the only one who notices how close this is to religious practices.

When we talk about how much we want to give ourselves to Him, or how much we want to please Him, we could easily be the most pious of nuns.  The joy of focusing on Him, following His rules, doing what He wants – substitue God for Dom and we sound like any number of ecstatic saints.   (St. Therese particularly comes to mind – she often uses the language of a lover when talking about God, and seems to find an orgasmic pleasure in her worship.)

Sin and i both have talked recently about what it’s like to feel ourselves “in His hands,” meaning our Doms.   And of course i have often used that same phrase to refer to a way to deal with the things i can’t control – by putting them in God’s hands. 

For many years, i described my process of praying for someone like this:  i picture the person and hold them in my heart for a minute, then i place them in God’s hands.   (i actually got that from a novel by Madeleine Engle, “A Ring of Endless Light.” )

As my images of God have changed, my process of praying has too.   At one time, i was more in touch with the male God who lives in the sky over us.  Now i am better able to see God as both male and female (no, not in a hermaphraditic way!)   But both male and female spiritual aspects of God.  And i am much more aware of God not being just God “above me,” but also God “around me” and “within me.”

So when i pray now, i feel myself in touch with God “within me” and i send the energy out into the universe, where, i believe, it connects with all of God – including the God within you.  Really, in kind of the same the way that i open myself  to Sir, i open myself to the universe of God.

The connections are all over the place.  When i talk about kneeling, and waiting, for Sir – you know, it could be God instead.  Even cock worship – i believe it connects with the ancient religious practices of worshipping symbols of fertility.   So –

– ok, i recognize that my Sir is not God.  i suspect He’s glad of that – i don’t think He wants to be my God.   

And maybe this all sounds crazy.  But here’s what i think –

– God is love. 

The Dominant/submissive relationship is very much about love – not necessarily romantic, happily-ever-after love.   But a submissive’s behavior is – loving .  It just is.  And a good Dom or Master is equally loving.

So of course it’s about God.  Since God is within each of us, i can easily conceptualize some of my feelings for Sir as a recognition and love for the God within Him.  i think i need to stay careful not to make him an idol.  God is within Him, but He is not God.

i know, Sir, You NEVER suggested that You were.  i know that.  i don’t know if this post will make You uncomfortable – i hope not.  But it’s something i think about sometimes.  Maybe no one else does?

But i think it’s got to be one of the challenges of being a Dom – to be able to accept all this “i just want to please you” and deal with it sanely…  it’s got to be a challenge sometimes, and maybe a burden?  And yet it’s one they seem to take on gladly. 

i think that’s the Dominant’s loving response.  To be able to hold His balance, to stay emotionally balanced and responsive in the midst of it all…

Of course, Dom’s aren’t the only ones cast in that role.  Parents, both mothers and fathers, are in the same boat.  We may not think about that much either, but it’s there.  Our parents are the first face of God for us. 

And then – having said that – i remember that it’s not just parents who are God-like, but doctors and teachers and all kinds of people.   And not just authority figures – i circle back to remembering that God is within each of us.  Children and submissives and beggars just as much, and sometimes more, than the most powerful.

Now that i’ve sorted it out in my head, it just seems like common sense to me.   In the lifestyle, it can be a deep and powerful spiritual love we show each other in our intense sexuality.   And of course God is there.


7 Responses to “Worshipping Doms”

  1. sweek kk November 3, 2010 at 6:29 am #



  2. nilla November 3, 2010 at 6:45 am #

    so well said, so in tune with how i feel…god/goddess is in and around us…and circles neatly into my belief that we are all here to be loved, to give love, to receive love.

    it’s certainly how i live my life.

    there are all levels of love, as you point out…we love our Doms not (alwayss) in a *romantic* way…we love our families, we love many of the people we interact with on a daily basis.

    truly ‘namaste’…as i just read this and it so resonates to your topic :

    “For a teacher and student, Namaste allows two individuals to come together energetically to a place of connection and timelessness, free from the bonds of ego-connection. If it is done with deep feeling in the heart and with the mind surrendered, a deep union of spirits can blossom.”

    a deep union of spirits…*smiles* exactly so.



  3. aisha November 3, 2010 at 7:28 am #

    @KK – Thanks – I’m glad you liked it!

    @’Nilla – And thank you – I love the quote on “namaste.” And appreciate that you “get it.”



  4. sin November 3, 2010 at 7:52 am #

    Aisha, I understand the Dom as God concept and have remarked on it several times though perhaps not in my blog.

    I think that for me it’s less about love and connection with all human things, and more about a more Judeo-Christian god who demands submission, obedience, worship. Yes, he knows he isn’t God, but he wants that same degree of trust and obedience as if he were. It sounds like mine is a darker Dom, perhaps a darker lord than yours.

    I do think there is a need to learn to cope with adoration – maybe they learn that in Dom school.


    • aisha November 3, 2010 at 9:01 pm #

      @Sin – O, that’s interesting! Yes, I think maybe you’re right. Based on your blog, I think your Dom is much more “patriarchial God” than mine is. Really interesting…

      LOL – I’ll have to work the “coping with adoration” class into my training school fantasy!


  5. greengirl November 17, 2010 at 9:04 am #

    This is about the best i have ever seen this expressed. I have thought about this topic a lot over the past year. Reconciling the language and trappings of the lifestyle with my faith was in interesting thing for me at first. As time goes on, it all seems so right though. I would like to link back to this, if that is alright with you, but I wasn’t able to find your email address here.

    • aisha November 17, 2010 at 9:02 pm #

      Hey – how do I get to your blog????? aisha

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