New Friends

16 Mar

Feeling a little bit better today, thank goodness, thanks to the magic of many medications.  i was thinking i might stay home today, but i’d planned to go to the kinky coffee event we have on Wednesdday nights.  If i stay home from work, i’ll feel weird about going.

i know.

Maybe that is kinda weird, apparently not everyone feels that way.  But i have this hangover from childhood – if i’m too sick to go to school/work, i’m too sick to be allowed to go do something fun. 

On the other hand, it’s very tempting to sleep some more…

Well, we’ll see.  One of the kinksters from Where-i-Live has been encouraging me to come, which of course makes me want to to do it.  He is one of a couple of younger local Doms – early 40’s – who i’ve been chatting with on fetlife. 

ES is also in his early 40’s, but not local.  Honestly, i’m not sure what the appeal could be of this 55 year old woman for someone that young, but i’m enjoying the conversation.  The local Doms are just being friendly, so that’s cool too.   {Really, they are, Sin.}

MoR and i are still talking when he’s not too busy house-hunting to have time for me.  We e-mailed a little bit yesterday while i was at the grocery getting milk and bread.  He has another house in his sites {cites?  sights?} and is hot on the trail.  


{In an interesting aside – interesting to me, anyhow, when i googled “hunter” and hit images, i also got this –


with the caption L.A.M.B. Hunter Bootie.  Cute, aren’t they?}

Anyhow, you met ES yesterday.  ES lives pretty far away, and is interesting and intense.  Too young for me, i still think, but he ignores that.

And there is TD.   i met TD on CM too.  He’s not local, but he’s not as far away as MoR and ES are.   He writes too – or at least he’s written some short stories and a couple of articles.

Isn’t that cool? 

i love men who write.  Partly, of course, because it’s a window into how they think.  Partly because it means they generate their own creativity.  And partly because it’s just fun. 

 Anyhow, i thought i’d introduce TD by way of an excerpt of a story he wrote.  It’s called First Meeting. 

  “He looks at her and smiles, then tells her to present. She lifts her arms over her head, then locks her fingers behind her neck, elbows straight out beside her, her eyes drop downward as she holds her head high, her back straightens, and her feet spread to approximately 2 ft. apart, then takes a deep breath.

He sees she is blushing immensely, fearful, yet excited about what is happening and to her reactions, she trembles. She looks beautiful standing there, the burgundy leather garment he has made for her drapes loosely off her body, being tied at the top around her neck by only a leather strand, and just under her breasts very loose around her back. The loin cloth just barely covering the tops of her legs in front, and covering all but the very lower part of her cheeks in back, while standing. He slowly makes his way around her, his hands softly glazing over her soft skin as he examines her, yet not intruding on her. She is silent as he gently touches her, noticing his feet coming back around in front of her, then his hand just under her chin, lifting her head upward, and again kisses her, this time passionately. He then reaches behind him, takes his collar and slowly places it around her neck, fastens it together, and locks it on her, as he tells her how proud he is to be able to finally call her his own. His lil girl.”

Maybe a better introduction would be from an article he was asked to write some time agao about “Crossing over” from a vanilla to a D/s lifestyle.  It’s an “Intro to” kind of article, and he ends with this:

  “Respect also plays a very large part in any D/s lifestyle. Granted, respect is earned and not just given, but it should still always be there. There is never any excuse for rudeness. It is a virtue to show respect, and an honor to gain respect. Before getting involved in a D/s relationship, you must make sure that there is mutual respect, not just the from submissive towards the Dominant, but also from the Dominant towards the submissive as well.

This could go on forever and never really touch much deeper than the surface of the lifestyle, but if you are interested in learning, and feel that it is in your heart, mind, body, and soul, you should not only read in the many sites offered, but study what is in those sites until you fully understand. Talk to people in the lifestyle; ask questions…on line or off line. Learn all you can learn before trying to get into a relationship. I feel if you do this, you will be building a good foundation to start your journey, gain respect from others in the lifestyle, and grow into a life greater than you could ever possibly imagine…

If these words have intrigued you somewhat and you are interested in becoming part of a growing community, this site has offered many a great deal of information to get them started… …find it, study from it, then open your eyes and soul to a new and exciting lifestyle…With that…have a good day, all…”

 Don’t bother clicking on the link – it goes to the website that doesn’t exist any more – the one Sin found the archives for a while back.  Actually, they’ve got a new website there now, not the right one.  But i liked that he linked to that site.

You can actually still link to it – Sin’s page has the link, way down at the bottom. on the right hand side.

But enough of that.  TD seems nice and interesting too, so that’s all good. 

Just to keep you up to date, FS is still dating a variety of women from the vanilla dating website.  Sometimes he shares his impressions of them with me.  i haven’t heard from him in a few days, so i’m thinking this last one may have had some lasting appeal.

i think i’ve resolved my work/party dilemma.  i think there are things i can do from home today that will allow me to stay home and still feel like i’ve worked enough to go have fun.  Plus, i might actually get some work done, and if i get too tired, i can nap.

Cool, huh?

 So maybe tomorrow i’ll have stories from the kinky coffee  – not “play” stories, no play is allowed – but stories.

14 Responses to “New Friends”

  1. sin March 16, 2011 at 8:50 am #

    That’s so cute – I am the same way about staying home from work. And yes it’s a holdover from my mom. If you are too sick to go to school you are too sick to go out that night, and if you are too sick on a Friday, you are too sick to go out all weekend. Ha, I’ drag myself to school on a Friday.

    Feel better Aisha.

    • aisha March 16, 2011 at 8:59 am #

      @Sin – Omigod – absolutely – the Friday thing. Sucked all the joy out of pretending to be sick so you could miss school too. Although we were in the “do you have a fever or have you thrown up” measure of sick enough to stay home anyhow. Funny.


  2. Donna March 16, 2011 at 8:54 am #

    What a great post! TD has quite a flair for writing. Any chance he has a blog?

    Do you have an age bias, Aisha? That seems a bit confining for an open minded woman like you. I’ve never understood why age would make a difference. It could be that the man who is perfect for you is younger in years but has an old soul. Would you willingly pass up on what might be the best times of your life because of an age difference? Life’s too short. Check the younger ones out, too. 🙂

    No kidding.

    • aisha March 16, 2011 at 9:12 am #

      @Donna – Are you saying i’m age-ist? Sheesh. You might be right. Ok, ok, i’ll try to keep an open mind. I just think i’d end up always feeling old with them. But I might be wrong. God knows i been wrong before, right?



  3. ewoman88 March 16, 2011 at 10:40 am #

    want want want want those shoes!!!

    • aisha March 16, 2011 at 11:21 am #

      laughing… yeah, i hear you. Me too.


  4. vanillamom March 16, 2011 at 11:32 am #

    i don’t grok the way younger doms and older chicka’s like us, (note i didn’t call us “old” merely “older”)

    when i was searching, there was this young (24) Dom. Younger than my oldest child. So so so so not going there. But he was so funny. i mean he was really really funny. “think how naughty you would be with a Dom like me…”

    it had an appeal…for about 3 seconds.

    but 40’s isn’t so bad, really. Because they’ve …been around life for awhile, understand about more. OH, this sounds like youth bashing and it simply isn’t. But i think it’s pretty hard to have a deep and full relationship with someone so removed from where we are…

    my two cents.

    i’m glad you found a “cure” for being home…and i have that hang up too…too sick for work then no play. Our moms did a hella job on us!!

    Napping is healing. (and i am making homemade chicken soup as i write this and my mouth is *watering so* for it….)

    Love and healing whammies,


    • aisha March 16, 2011 at 1:51 pm #

      @’Nilla – O, gosh, 24 would be younger than my younger kid! I do get a few of them too, but i’m with you, that’s just not gonna work. Partly – ok, call me paranoid, but I think I’d be afraid they’d suddenly turn on me and shriek with laughter, “Just kidding!!! Did you really think I was serious???” I’m way too insecure for that apparently.

      Forties, yeah, i agree, not quite so far away. So, we’ll see. Trying to keep an open mind. I had a friend who was 15 years older than her husband and they seemed to be blissfully happy.

      You know, I think – if I’m gonna be honest, and really, why not – I think I would always feel like someone that much younger than me would feel like he was doing me a favor. That people would be thinking – ewwww, what does he see in her? For the same reason, I’ve made it a rule – kind of a joking rule, but one I’ve lived up to – not to date anyone prettier than me. Which, when I say it like that, assumes that other people are fairly shallow, right? I don’t even know what to do with that insight…

      But I had a lovely nap, complete with vivid dreams, which i’ll have to go write down for JM, the amazing analyst, who i get to see again on Friday. Woohoo!

      Wish I had some of your homemade chicken soup – I’ve been eating the canned variety, which is not bad, but I bet yours is better.



  5. Mick March 16, 2011 at 1:28 pm #


    and I think you have outgrown the stay home sick, then no fun at night rule that we apply to our teens. Have fin… Mick

    • aisha March 16, 2011 at 1:34 pm #

      Dear Mick – No, apparently we never outgrow that rule! But thanks… At least it’s DST so I won’t be going in the dark. Now I just have to find something to wear…


      • mouse March 16, 2011 at 3:14 pm #

        Just popping over to say hi….and to drool over the shoes..


  6. aisha March 16, 2011 at 3:23 pm #

    Hi, Mouse,

    Yeah, the shoes really are “all that…” Thanks for saying ‘hi.”


  7. knottylittlemonkey March 16, 2011 at 4:00 pm #

    Lol! No school/work, no fun! I have it too.

    I think the fourties are the perfect age for you. Old enough to know a thing or two, but young enough to still be flexible in their approach.

    I love the shoes ,btw.

    • aisha March 16, 2011 at 5:53 pm #

      @K – Thanks, I think, that you think the 40’s are the right age for me. laughing… ok, i’ll keep an open mind.

      And the shoes? Yes – omg, the zipper in the back? Yeah. I totally want them.


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