Master Adoration?

20 Jun

Yes, Master Adoration was the suggested text for today, the suggestion coming from GW.  Fortunately, it fit pretty well with what i was going to write about today anyhow.

Yesterday afternoon, i went to the monthly discussion group we have in the kink community here.  We met in a restaurant, and had a large room to ourselves, which was nice.    

Most of the folks there were young.  Not necessarily new to the lifestyle, but young.  i like that – hearing their perspective.

The topic was definitions.  You know, the usual: Master, Dom, Top, Switch, slave, submissive, bottom, masochist, sadist.  Obedience and Punishment were also on the list.  Ms. Constance led the discussion of course, and it was fairly interesting.

We agreed that it wasn’t a continuum of worthiness – it’s not Top, Dom, Master – bottom, submissive, slave – Good, Better, Best.  And you don’t “graduate” from one level to the next, although some people may move through the sequence.  

Here are some of the ideas that bounced around the room:

The Master  always has the deciding vote in the relationship.  Does that mean the slave never does?  Does a slave have the right to give input?  Or is that something the Master chooses to allow or not?  What if the Master is wrong?  Really wrong?  

So here’s a question.  Can you really be a Master without a slave?  A slave without a Master?  What would that mean?

We decided that you really couldn’t be a Master if you didn’t have a slave.  i mean, you could say, “I’m a Master,” but it wouldn’t really mean anything.  It has to be in the context of a relationship.

I was talking to GW about it last night, and he said that of course you can be a Master without a slave.  But he as we talked about it more, it seemed like he really meant that one (One) has Master tendencies, so when involved in a relationship that’s where it naturally heads.

The corollary for that is the idea of a “slave’s heart.”  You can’t be a slave unless someone owns you.  i fully believe that.  i don’t really know about the Master side of it.  

But if we define slave as someone who gives their will to another, who allows another to make choices and decisions for them, who gives someone else their “all,” then i don’t know how you could truly be a slave without a Master.

i think i have a slave’s heart.  i think a slave’s heart is what makes me feel that overwhelming longing to serve, to please, to give.  To want to belong to. 

i don’t think i can just jump into a Master/slave relationship.  i really don’t.  i think it has to build slowly, with time for lots of trust.

i think the idea of it really becoming a reality scares me to death.

And really, it’s a wonder that i can even write this post at all.  GW is with me on webcam, talking to me.  

He wants me to buy a black ribbon to wear around my neck when i’m at home.

He wants the password to my Collarme account.  I know, Sfp went through that a while back.  But it was a lot less – uncomfortable – for me when it was her.  {laughing}

He wants to “see how i interact with other people.”  Which – i don’t care.  You all know me – i don’t have anything to hide, i don’t think.

But it’s hard to concentrate on the blog with all this going on in my head, and knowing he’s watching me.

Ok – now i’ve been told not to talk for the next half hour so i can concentrate.  That helps.  i guess.

Omigosh, youall.  i am so over my head here, in deep water. 


And there’s really nothing here on Master adoration.  Hmmmm.  No time to start over….

What’s a girl to do???? 

Ok, i’ll throw the question out there to youall.  Can you be a Master or a slave without the other half of the equation?

And don’t forget Master adoration – cause really – isn’t everything about that anyhow????

{There, did you like how i worked that in?} 






16 Responses to “Master Adoration?”

  1. grandwizzy June 20, 2011 at 5:20 am #

    c,mere , closer, yes CLOSER

    • aisha June 20, 2011 at 9:29 pm #


      O, yikes – don’t you think i’m close enough?


  2. sin June 20, 2011 at 6:30 am #

    Can you be a Master or a slave without the reciprocal other half? This is opinion, not fact, and might be controversiail, but I don’t think you can. Not really. I think it’s a relationship like husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, where if you aren’t in a relationship, you can’t really describe yourself that way.

    Is dominant/submissive any different? I don’t know. I still think that’s a definition of a relationship. And of course you can have Master or slave or dominant or submissive tendencies or desires without actually being in a relationship. As I said, just my opinion, and a very early in the morning opinion at that.

    Adoration? I think it’s a function of our relationship with a Dom or Master. We let them make decisions for us, we want them to control us, and as a result we adore them. Self-fulfilling prophecy?

    • aisha June 20, 2011 at 9:30 pm #


      Yes, i agree with you all the way. {laughing} Especially about the Master adoration part!



  3. Mick June 20, 2011 at 6:44 am #

    you guys make a cute couple….

    • aisha June 20, 2011 at 9:32 pm #


      Thanks, Mick!


  4. Striving for Peace June 20, 2011 at 7:30 am #

    Slippery slope isn’t it?

    It starts off all talk and before you know it you’re sliding into something

    sneaky bastards

    and dont’ we love them.

    I struggle with the whole concept of Master and Slave anyway — I’m not sure I buy it. But can you be a Top or a Dom or (gag– I’ll say it) a Master without a bottom a sub or a slave?


    you’re just unfullilled.

    as for can you be a slave without a master? I think not. As you are still the “boss of you” until you give that control over to someone else.


    • aisha June 20, 2011 at 9:35 pm #

      Dear Sfp,

      Yes, that’s exactly how it works! One minute it’s all fun and games, next thing you know, you find yourself obeying some new directions.

      Interesting perspective – what you say makes sense to me.



      p.s. 9 more days til you come visit? Woohooo!

  5. littlemonkey June 20, 2011 at 9:53 am #

    I don’t think you can be a master without slave, unless we get into “Master” as a title and indicator of a high level of expertise, then perhaps master would be appropriate, but since anyone can say they are a master I guess that doesn’t hold . Maybe we need ole’ Domination U to start credentialing it’s graduates.

    Adoration? I adore reading about you and GW.

    • aisha June 20, 2011 at 9:37 pm #


      Agree with your opinion – love the idea of getting credentials from Domination U! Would that be like “my” training school, or do you have something else in mind?

      And thanks… glad you’re enjoying it! I am too….


  6. grandwizzy June 20, 2011 at 11:57 am #

    actually you are all quite wrong, being a dominant is the type you are, being Master is not something you make yourself, that is a title earned from the slave who begs your collar, it is not for any man to to say he is, that honor lays with his wench

    • aisha June 20, 2011 at 9:38 pm #

      Dear GW,

      Thanks for commenting and sharing your thoughts on it – what you say also makes sense to me. The tendency to be a Master is there, but takes the slave to complete it?



  7. Nick June 20, 2011 at 12:11 pm #

    grandwizzy. Spot on. I am a Dom. I am Master to my girl who isn’t necessarily slave. She is definitely sub, she approaches being slave in many ways. I couldn’t accept her as slave even if it was what she wanted, not currently. We don’t have that freedom. But I am her Master , most definitely.

    • aisha June 20, 2011 at 9:40 pm #


      Thank you for commenting! Nice to hear a whole different Domly perspective too – it’s always a pleasure to get a glimpse inside your minds.

      I kind of picture you and GW nodding at each other in Domly agreement…


  8. Andi June 20, 2011 at 9:48 pm #

    OMG! bad girl all Out of the loop. (me I’m the bad girl) going back to read because clearly I Missed something.

  9. vanillamom June 21, 2011 at 8:04 am #

    oh my. i’d left a long long long comment and now it’s disappeared into the ether.

    *shrugs* oh well, that’s what happens sometimes.

    i agree that the Dominants are born that way (or may have latent tendencies that are evolved during living)…and same for subs…though i suspect many sub-women especially, are submissive as a form of balance with their day-to-day lives (especially those high-powered successful-in-a-mans-world kind of gal)…

    Sir became my Master after he collared me, and that jives well with what GW said…great topic, aisha…


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