Did i Tell You

12 Sep

So much is happening so fast… i really need to take a day off work and just write about all the experiences i had at C.O.P.E. and all the things that are going on here.

i need to go back to last Thursday night with Sir X, before i went to C.O.P.E.  i told you about the spanking ~ that really, was more like what i think of as an impact scene, since i was bound with my hands over my head.

But after that, we spent some time getting to know each other in some other ways ~like He said, it was a sampler of things we could do.  Some of them involved orgasms for me, which is always good.  {smiling}

Then, when i was feeling all warm and cozy, He told me that He wanted to me to wear a collar of consideration.  He explained what it meant to Him, and what He hoped it would mean to me.

He’d made the collar.  It won’t quite pass in the vanilla world, but it’s close.  It looks like this:

Later, He shared this passage He’d read:

“The Collar of Consideration:
This Collar is traditionally given at the beginning of a relationship.   The Dominant, by offering this collar to the submissive, is expressing an interest in pursuing a relationship with that submissive beyond the range of a casual acquaintance or even the relationship between a Top and bottom.   This collar is offered seriously and with intent.   The submissive, in accepting this collar from the Dominant, is equally serious in her understanding that their relationship has moved into a different stage.   The existence of the Collar of Consideration indicates to other Dominants and submissives that the Dominant and submissive are forming a potentially serious relationship.   It’s existence acts to openly present to other Dominants that this submissive is ‘off-limits’ for the duration of the ‘consideration’ period and that honorable Dominants should not pursue this submissive in any manner.”

So i wore my collar of consideration at C.O.P.E.   i don’t think it kept any Doms away ~ i don’t think there were any beating down my door anyhow.  

And that’s ok.i don’t do well ~ at least not now ~ with random play.  i kind of doubt if i ever will ~ not that i’m criticizing it.  i just don’t know how it would work for me.  

The collar, however, helped me remember that Sir X was here and interested.  Actually, it was a little bit like having Him with me.

He also stayed in touch with texts and email, although not excessively, so that was good.

i think part of what made the experience fun was not looking and hoping to meet “my Dom.” Not wondering if “He” was there.

Instead, i could just enjoy myself.  i know where my Dom is…  

25 Responses to “Did i Tell You”

  1. ahiddenslave September 12, 2011 at 6:28 am #

    aisha, I just read this, and just sighed with happiness for you, This all sounds so promising and although it seems to be moving fast, it also seems “considered” too. I am so excited, for you and smiling at the laptop.

    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:10 pm #

      Thank you so much, HS. It is moving fast, but He’s not an impulsive person, and neither am I, so I feel ok about it. Yes, he’s very thoughtful – as in full of thought, if you know what I mean.

      And I’m just so delighted to see you back here!!


  2. histoy September 12, 2011 at 7:00 am #

    ooooo so happy for you, don’t you just love that fluttering feeling inside? yummy!

    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:11 pm #


      Yes, I do love that feeling! And i appreciate you sharing my happiness.



  3. Sweet girl September 12, 2011 at 7:18 am #

    awwwww 🙂
    “i know where my Dom is… ” made me smile 🙂

    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:16 pm #

      @Sweet girl,

      laughing… I know, it’s awfully sweet, isn’t it?

      But I just ran over and took a look at your blog, which looks thoughtful and interesting – and then your Master’s blog ~ which i thought was kind of sweet too… 🙂

      Seriously, thank you so much, I’m glad it made you smile, i just walk around grinning these days.



    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:18 pm #

      @Sweet girl,

      And thanks for commenting!!

      aisha 🙂

  4. striving for peace September 12, 2011 at 8:02 am #

    oh — I’m so pleased that you’re taking this next step on your journey

    I am hopeful
    and happy for you

    and — you’re still floaty in your writing — which is so lovely


    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:17 pm #

      Thanks, Sfp, I am still a bit floaty – of course, last night helped.

      He is a man after my own heart – we will have rituals and routines I can come to expect. How cool is that????



  5. kitten September 12, 2011 at 8:21 am #

    WOW! This is awesome! May your dreams be realized 🙂


    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:17 pm #

      Dear Kitten,

      Thank you so much! (For reading, for commenting, and for the kind words!}


  6. sin September 12, 2011 at 8:27 am #

    Nice. It’s like … I don’t know, I was trying to think of an analogy to the collar of consideration. And couldn’t really. like that it’s a commitment to consider on his part. I like that he’s the kind of guy that likes commitment. Or that’s how he sounds to me.

    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:19 pm #


      I know – I like that too.

      I gotta say – here’s what it felt like~ it felt like He claimed me.

      How cool is that?


  7. sky September 12, 2011 at 10:55 am #

    Your Collar is lovely, Aisha. You must be on cloud 9! 🙂 How wonderful! I’m so happy for you.

    Take care,


    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:20 pm #

      Thank you, Sky ~ yes, I might be a little bit “up there.” {Grinning} Thanks for sharing the joy with me.


  8. thesubmissivebf September 12, 2011 at 12:15 pm #

    I love the Collar of Consideration poem. He sounds very thoughtful. 🙂

    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:21 pm #

      @Butterfly – Thank you! He is, you know, more than considerate, he thinks things through. I totally appreciate that.


  9. Faithful September 12, 2011 at 12:40 pm #

    doing cartwheels here!! I can’t to hear about Sunday’s date w/ Sir X!


    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:22 pm #


      Thanks so much! Nice to celebrate with friends – wish I could see you doing cartwheels!


  10. vanillamom September 12, 2011 at 1:07 pm #


    and really? You’re such a ‘hippie’ that the collar could pass on occasion as a macrame choker…

    just sayin’….

    And i’d like to add…your “happy” just exudes from this post. . . and that makes me happy, too….

    Three weeks from Wednesday *grin*


    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:24 pm #

      Dear ‘Nilla,

      Laughing… ok, i am that much of an old hippie! I probably could get away with it from time to time!

      I am happy, and sure appreciate you sharing in that with me.

      Can’t wait – that’s only 22 days!!!



  11. Giggling Bunny September 12, 2011 at 4:15 pm #

    omg congratz!!! That’s a huge thing =) I am under consideration as well now although I didn’t get a collar yet! haha

    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:29 pm #


      Thanks for the congrats! Exciting to be under consideration, isn’t it? Of course, it’s mutual, so that helps… Happy for you too!!

  12. K September 12, 2011 at 5:45 pm #

    I have a special smile called the happy for aisha smile. It looks like this :))) 😉

    • aisha September 12, 2011 at 9:30 pm #


      And that totally makes me smile. Thank you!!


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