Sunday Morning Purrs

16 Oct

Woke up this morning with my whole body tingling, feeling incredibly good.  Incredibly.  


Stretched and purred.  

But y’all don’t need to hear about my specific adventures last night.   i will tell you this ~ 

Sir X brought some video clips He’d selected and downloaded, specifically chosen because He thought i’d like them, and because He wanted to see my reaction to them.

Yes, they were clips of spanking, and caning and such ~ amateurs, not professionals, no more than 3 oe 4 minutes long.  Also some of oral sex.

It cracked me up a little bit ~ earlier that day ~ in the grocery, maybe ~ i’d picked up a book purporting to give advice to women on relationships.  The first part that caught my eye explained why we should never have a relationship with any man ~ or woman, i suppose, although this seemed to be a hetero-specific relationship book ~ but i digress ~

it explained that we should never have a relationship with any man who watches porn, because he’s going to have unrealistic expectation for women and sex that we can never live up to.

Now, you know, i didn’t read the whole book, or even the whole chapter, so i can’t actually judge.  And maybe they had other things to say about it too.

But i thought at the time that this advice certainly didn’t apply to BDSM based relationships, i just didn’t have time then to count the ways it didn’t apply, or the ways i was offended by its assumptions.

Last night, as Sir X was setting up His laptop so we could watch the video clips, i thought about it, but just for a minute.  Then i had other things to think about.

But it’s all about context, isn’t it?  Whether or not watching porn is a bad sign for the relationship ~ it’s all about context.

{Grinning}  In my particular relationship, it was a lovely warm-up for an evening of delight.

And ~ on a whole ‘nother note ~

This is my 500th post.


i never dreamed i’d be such a prolific blogger.  Shessh.

Thanks for reading me.  🙂

22 Responses to “Sunday Morning Purrs”

  1. Sam October 16, 2011 at 6:32 am #

    Congratulations on 500!!!


    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:21 am #

      Thanks, Sam!


  2. sassafrass October 16, 2011 at 7:16 am #

    Congrats on 500! (I’m still trying to read all of them, I will get there someday). It’s amazing the assumptions that are made about relationships by some out there. And how they would cringe knowing that we are going against all their rules and *gasp* having a real, exciting, amazing relationship despite that!

    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:25 am #

      Hi, Sassafrass,

      Thanks for reading (I’m so flattered that you’re reading older posts!) and thanks for taking the time to comment.

      You’re so right about relationships ~ and it’s funny, I imagine not so long ago, I was making some of the same assumptions! D/s has really opened so many doors for me – internal parts of myself and experiences, that is.

      Thanks again,


  3. Sky October 16, 2011 at 8:13 am #

    Congratulations, Aisha! I too, am working my way through all of your posts/stories. (and enjoying them!)

    I enjoy watching porn. Just yesterday I watched an amateur couple….he wS spanking her with a belt and his hand and she was thanking him. The clip was HOT! I can’t remember what blog I found it in now.

    Sounds like the videos were a nice prelude to a lovely evening for you and Sir X. 🙂

    Take care. Sky

    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:27 am #


      Thank you! I think that’s so cool, that you’re reading the older posts. Thanks so much…

      Yes, I agree, porn can really be hot, it sure was for us the other night… we had one of those too, where she was counting and thanking him…

      Thanks, Sky


  4. sin October 16, 2011 at 8:14 am #

    Porn – people are funny and so judgemental about porn. Especially visual porn. There’s a blog post there – or a thesis for a doctorate I guess.

    I don’t think it’s evil. I wonder if anyone who reads here does.

    And congrats on getting to 500. I know I was here at the beginning, or pretty darn close. It must be a good thing for you I think.

    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:29 am #


      Gosh, you’re right, it would be a fun thesis wouldn’t it? Would we try to measure the impact it has on relationships? I’d wonder if it makes a difference if it’s shared porn or just one of them alone…

      It’s hard to imagine anyone in D/s thinking it’s evil.

      And thanks for the congratulations – you were here real close to the beginning, and it has been good for me. Not the least of it has been my relationships with my blogging sisters like you, so thank you!


  5. Striving for Peace October 16, 2011 at 9:40 am #

    (uncontrolled giggling)


    never have a relationship with anyone who watches porn

    who the hell is that?

    I have never met a man who doesn’t watch porn
    men are visual creatures

    now — porn
    particularly bdsm porn
    doesn’t do much for me

    bdsm porn makes me feel sorry for the girl — hysterically
    instead of picturing myself in her place
    I think “oh– that looks unpleasant”

    whisper the same thing in my ear — and I’m a hot wet mess.

    a man who doesn’t watch porn


    PS — happy happy happy 500th!

    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:32 am #

      Dear Sfp,

      Laughing.. I’m glad you were amused! Yes, put that way, it does seem ridiculous, doesn’t it?

      I don’t watch porn on my own, when Sir X asked me what I liked, I’m like “I dunno….” which is why he wanted to see for himself. He brought mild stuff, and it did turn me on, no doubt. But I kept jumping and making noises every time the cane or whatever landed on her, which amused Him a lot.

      So yeah, I hear what you’re saying!



  6. vanillamom October 16, 2011 at 10:27 am #

    Happy 500th! and i don’t think i’ve missed more than a handful, perhaps the first ones? Still…i’m glad to have met you, 500 times!!

    That book …yeah, so not BDSM themed…and yet i’d offer that our “kink” relationships are more honest, more real, perhaps, because they need to be, to work well.

    And i’m so glad you had a wonderful afternoon with Sir X…and yanno? we so do too want all the details, Missy!!



    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:35 am #

      @ ‘Nilla,

      Yep, you were here in my beginnings, thanks for the support!!

      Right, it was a super vanilla book, and probably had a section about playing hard to get and men not buying cows when they can get milk free. LOL.

      As for the details… well, i’m sure I’ll put them out there eventually… yes, ma’am. Saw Ms. Constance yesterday and she said how much she’d enjoyed meeting you.


  7. thesubmissivebf October 16, 2011 at 10:43 am #

    I just want to say thank you for blogging. I look forward everyday to reading your thoughts. Looking forward to the next 500!
    Hugs 🙂

    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:36 am #

      Thank you, Butterfly! I always appreciate your comments – and look forward to reading your blog too, you know! I count you as one of my subsisters these days….



  8. nancy October 16, 2011 at 11:22 am #

    Porn .. oh my where would I be without some porn!
    Congratulations on 500.. keep on going~

    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:37 am #


      Laughing… yep, there’s some value there, isn’t there? (That was an amazing sentence, wasn’t it? Almost every other word is “there” and yet it works…)



  9. Faithful October 16, 2011 at 12:19 pm #

    Congrats on 500… I am glad I found you!! (and everyone else too!)

    Regarding Porn- Well maybe the book meant someone who watches porn 24/7 or makes it a huge part of their life and has trouble functioning like an Adult in the real world.

    I think a good balance is appropriate. Master and I don’t make Porn a regular thing- sometimes just sprinkled in there for a change of pace…. He is much more into the real thing however than a video 🙂

    Whatever works for the couple is all that really matters- as long as you find your “thing” and it certainly seems like you have with Sir X.



    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:40 am #


      Thanks! I’m so glad I’m getting to know you too! Can’t wait to start reading that-which-I-won’t-nag-you-about… smiling.

      You have a good point – excessive porn would be a problem. And I think you’ve hit on one of the concerns for people who are against porn.

      Like you’re saying, it might be worrisome if one’s partner were more into video than the real thing.

      And ok, yes, I’ll be more forthcoming on details…. laughing….

      Thank you,


  10. lil October 16, 2011 at 4:32 pm #

    Umm, doesn’t that weed out a massive amount of the male population? Lol.
    Congratulations on 500 posts.

    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:41 am #


      Laughing…. yes, I think it might…

      Thanks for the congratulations – and thanks for reading and for commenting!


  11. MissNaida October 17, 2011 at 1:07 am #

    Congrats on 500!! Here’s to 500 more!! 😀

    I am with those people about the watching of porn and not dating a guy that does that… eeew yeeck!!… He can spank me, collar me, whip me, fist me, humiliate me but if He watches porn, I’m soooo outta here. HEHE

    Seriously though, when we dl and watch something together I’m all cool. If He dl’s or watches porn when I’m not around, I always wonder what made Him dl it. Was He bored with me?, am I not enough?… questions like that… I suppose I better get over myself hey!
    Happy blogging, can’t wait to read ya tomorrow xo

    • aisha October 17, 2011 at 4:43 am #


      Thank you!

      Interesting point about feeling differently when you watch together than when you watch separately. I remember with First Sir feeling a little surprised and shocked to discover that he sat around and watched porn – in that same way you’re talking about – and then thinking, o, I sit around and read blogs,, how is that different?


      It’s all perspective and balance, isn’t it?


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