Notes from Kinky Kollege

2 Nov

Yesterday’s comments were so interesting – i love the perspective each of you brings.  Really, really we need to have a kinky bloggers convention ~ think how cool it would be if we could sit around drinking coffee – or wine, or whatever – chatting about this stuff!

Ok, i know, i’m relentless.  Yes.  And youall are shy.  Whatever.

Sigh.

That’s ok, when the time’s right, we’ll make it happen.

But i was flipping through my notes on Kinky Kollege ~ i went to see Tammy Jo Eckhart talk on Writing Erotica to Communicate.  It was an excellent presentation, she’s smart and interesting, and read us a short story she’d done, which was fun.  Here’s her website:  http://www.thetammyjo.com/

But you know, i already write erotica to communicate, and so do most of you all.  So when she talks about the six goals, i’m mentally checking them off ~ yep, that, and that….

Which is exciting in its own way ~ being in synch with the expert.   You know, it’s a workshop thing.  When you start going to workshops on a particular topic, it’s all new and eye-opening.  

Then there’s a phase where you know a lot and you’re checking to see if they’re approaching it differently or if you’re missing something.  That’s kind of where i am now, at least with this particular workshop.

Here, you’ll see what i mean ~  look at the six goals she identifies for using erotica to communicate:

1.  To express desires define what you want, not necessarily what you need.

2.  To create a safe place to have dialogue about it.

3.  It gives you a chance to explore possibilities with little chance of failure.  Start with the fantasy and go from there.

4.  To help you investigate your feelings.

5.  To help you clarify your opinions.

6.  To identify role models.  {i think she was referring here to using other people’s erotica to communicate… but i could be wrong.}

Anyhow, those are things that we already do, whether we write our own blogs, read other people’s, comment, or just lurk.  It’s nice to see it kind of laid out like that though…

And tomorrow, Sir and i have a date.  Which makes me tingle just thinking about it.  i have no idea what we’re going to do ~ and don’t care.  

i started to say “anything would be ok with me,”  but that might be pushing my luck.  Let me stick to “i don’t care what He has planned.” 

And Saturday, we’re going to the munch, which will be fun.  It would be even more fun if there were a play party afterwards… but a sub can’t have everything.  

Hopefully, Sir and i will stage our own play party…  visions of canes and collars, cuffs and clamps dance in my head.

 

13 Responses to “Notes from Kinky Kollege”

  1. Sam November 2, 2011 at 6:43 am #

    Hmmmm…. I hate to think we are role models over at Mistress and Slave on the Lam. Too much responsibility. Sam

    • aisha November 2, 2011 at 7:36 am #

      @Sam,

      But you are… both of you. Wonderful role models. Sorry.

      laughing…

      aisha

  2. sin November 2, 2011 at 7:31 am #

    Soon you’ll be giving your own workshops.

    • aisha November 2, 2011 at 7:36 am #

      @Sin,

      Ok, you know I really want to. Would’t that be fun????

      aisha

  3. vanillamom November 2, 2011 at 7:44 am #

    I guess i do those things…i have to say…i’m not a…whats the word? Studied? I’m not a studied author…i write on the fly, off the cuff. Yes, i research if there is something i want to use and want to get it right…but do i always meet my goals?

    *smiles*

    since i write for me first, yes. Pomeranians notwithstanding, if i’m happy with a piece, then i’m okay. Goal met.

    and i apologize if this sounds flippant, coz i don’t mean it that way at all…i’m dramatically overtired from THREE consecutive nights of insomnia (missing my Master, fiercely…)

    nilla
    ps the idea of a where-you-live kinky event is way kewl.
    and…give Ms. Constance my regards on Saturday!

    • aisha November 2, 2011 at 7:12 pm #

      @’Nilla,

      You didn’t sound flippant at all – and you’re as good if not better than a bunch of published authors, so there.

      Sorry you’re tired and Master deprived… 😦

      And i will tell Ms. Constance hi, and you know she’ll just beam and say the same back…

      aisha

  4. Faithful November 2, 2011 at 2:39 pm #

    Everytime you write about Sir X.. I just smile 🙂
    Isn’t it wonderful that you REALLY don’t care what you do…. as long as it is together? Best feeling in the world!

    ~faithful

    • aisha November 2, 2011 at 7:13 pm #

      @Faithful,

      You know what? Me too. i’m just smiling a lot these days.

      Thank you for sharing the pleasure!

      aisha

  5. Sky November 2, 2011 at 5:30 pm #

    I agree – you should consider presenting a workshop/lecture. 🙂

    Have a fun date with Sir X!

    Take care. Sky

    • aisha November 2, 2011 at 7:14 pm #

      @Sky,

      You know, I think I will one of these days. I do some of that in my vanilla life,so it wouldn’t be a huge stretch. But I’ve got more studying to do first….

      Thanks!

      aisha

  6. Sir J November 3, 2011 at 12:13 am #

    over at what I wonder you wrote in the comments “I keep thinking – are we talking about submission, or love???? i mean, love as a verb. ”

    I believe Dominance and submission are a context in which one (or two I guess more accurately) frame the action of love. It is a way of expressing it and have having a common conversation around love and connection and relationship. So I would say “yes” we are talking about submission and love.

    I don’t believe this is the only or right way to express love it is just “a” way and it works for some. I suppose it also possible for a D/s relationship to flourish out of love but I personally have never see it.

    Sir J formerly A Dominant Character

    • aisha November 3, 2011 at 5:58 am #

      @Sir J

      Thanks for commenting – I actually posted about Gg’s post, and quoted from your comment – hope you don’t mind! I appreciate your input.

      aisha

  7. Sir J November 3, 2011 at 10:15 am #

    of course I don’t mind, I am honoured in fact.

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