Sunday Morning… with Kris

15 Jan

Laughing… and i didn’t wake up hung over this morning either.  But i slept in til 7:00 which is so unusual i might as well have been hung over!

And it is Sunday morning.

i love this song.  It’s so sweetly melancholy.  i think i always hear it in my head on Sunday morning.

Sir and i had a lovely time last night.  i know you’re not surprised.

We spent some time sorting through the things that had been an issue between us.  i think we left things in a good place ~ very close to what i said yesterday ~

~ neither one of us knows exactly what we want this relationship to be like. We are both willing to be patient and experiment and see where it goes.

i say that and it sounds so obvious, it sounds stupid.  But sometimes, people do know what they want, or at least think they know.  Then they look for someone who will fit that vision of what a relationship should be.

This is funny ~ i ran across this list i made ~ apparently in 2009.  It’s my wish list for a man.  It doesn’t define the relationship, but i sure am clear about what qualities i was looking for.

Physical:

  • Not in terrible health; not someone who talks about their blood pressure or diabetes all the time.
  • Not obese
  • Has a kind face – or a wise face, or maybe even an interesting face.
  • Interested in physical intimacy.

Social:

  • Not racist, sexist, classist, homophobic, and so on.  Appreciates diversity.
  • Has a social conscience; does some things to help make the world a better place.
  • Reasonably comfortable in social settings, not agoraphobic or with an anxiety disorder.
  • Has friends.
  • Fun to be with.  Likes to do things – listen to music, dance, go to events, festivals, plays, eat out, travel – at least some of those.

Mental:

  • Intelligent
  • Likes to read, and is well-read.
  • Good sense of humor.
  • Interested in the world, curious, still learning.

Emotional:

  • Warm, caring, compassionate, empathic
  • Strong – has self-control, able to handle his own emotions, handles adversity reasonably well.
  • Sensitive – able to empathize with other’s pain, able to recognize his own pain and come to terms with it.
  • Generous, loving, sensual.
  • Not whiny, depressed, anxious, or dependent.
  • Capable of emotional intimacy.

Spiritual:

  • Spirituality is a source of strength for him in some way.
  • Tolerant of a variety of spiritual traditions, can appreciate diversity.
  • Accepts my beliefs as valid for me, respects them even if he doesn’t agree or share them.

i’m telling you, Sir meets all those criteria.  Every.  Single.  One.

How amazing is that????

More happy sighs…  

So i don’t know ~ neither one of us knows ~ what we’ll build between us, but He is the person i want to try to build with.

i know.  Y’all already knew that.  Let me know when you get bored with my happy, happy, happy and maybe i’ll do some fantasies or something..

Now i gotta go make chili and a tres leches cake.  Yikes.

20 Responses to “Sunday Morning… with Kris”

  1. Mick January 15, 2012 at 8:28 am #

    A very lengthy and exacting list.

    Mick

    • aisha January 15, 2012 at 8:39 am #

      @Mick,

      Laughing… no joke. When i make a list, i’m not playing!!

      aisha

  2. vanillamom January 15, 2012 at 8:29 am #

    neat! as i was reading your list, i was nodding going “yes,” to every single point…He isn’t perfect (neither am i, or you, just in case you were wondering, *giggling*)…but damn He’s pretty damn close!!!

    i am not tired of happy.

    i find myself having a wee bit of angst this morning. So i can live with your happy…

    nilla

    • aisha January 15, 2012 at 8:43 am #

      @’Nilla,

      i know, it’s amazing isn’t it? Right down the list ~ Check. Check. Check.

      And um, really? You’re not perfect? AND i’m not either???? Revelations every damn day! laughing…

      Sorry to hear you’ve got some angst ~ thinking of you, sending hugs,

      aisha

  3. abby January 15, 2012 at 8:38 am #

    Happy is always good….and gives others hope! Good luck with those cakes. abby

    • aisha January 15, 2012 at 8:44 am #

      @Abby,

      Thanks ~ that’s a nice way of looking at it.

      And thanks for sending good luck, i may need it. i’ve only done a tres leches cake once before, and it’s a little more complex than my usual cake mix and store-bought icing. Ahhh, the things we do for our kids…

      aisha

  4. Striving for Peace January 15, 2012 at 9:10 am #

    A good list

    and lol

    not as “exacting” as Mick makes it sound IMHO

    good for you Sis — I love that you
    have found him

    and I’m glad that he has found you

    sfp

    • aisha January 16, 2012 at 7:09 am #

      @Sfp,

      Thanks ~ it wasn’t an unreasonable list, was it? No.

      Although, when you factor in that there also had to be chemistry and kink, it wasn’t quite as easy.

      And thanks for sharing my happiness! Isn’t it neat that we’re both happy at the same time? i love that.

      aisha

  5. Sky January 15, 2012 at 10:29 am #

    Aisha – I enjoy your happy posts! (and your fantasies!). Real life is much more interesting and your willingness to share your happiness helps (me at least) feel lighter and hopeful for my own future.

    It’s lovely that you’re baking a special cake for someone special! I’m sure it will turn out perfectly and be delicious!

    Fondly. Sky

    • aisha January 16, 2012 at 7:14 am #

      @Sky,

      Thanks so much ~ i’m glad you’re enjoying my happiness.

      The cake turned out pretty good, actually, amazingly. i’m not a baker you know, by a long shot.

      Thanks for the support and good wishes Sky. i just read your latest post – sounds like things are difficult but in many ways going well with you.

      hugs,

      aisha

  6. Mick January 15, 2012 at 10:31 am #

    Hello
    I have one simple requirement = you know it when you see it.
    love
    Molly

    • aisha January 16, 2012 at 7:14 am #

      @Molly,

      O, yes, that’s an important one. Thanks!

      aisha

  7. sin January 15, 2012 at 10:32 am #

    Aisha (and Mick), I think it’s a good, realistic list. You aren’t that demanding in some areas, but you don’t cut any slack where it’s important to you. You don’t need a guy who is in perfect shape, but you don’t want him whiny or focused on some endless illness. But you do insist on intelligent. You don’t need a guy who believes exactly what you believe, but you need him to respect your beliefs.

    And I’m not tired of the happy yet. It’s nice. And I love that song.

    • aisha January 16, 2012 at 7:19 am #

      @Sin,

      Thanks! You’re so right, there are some things that just aren’t negotiable for me at this point in my life. And others where i can allow space. I like the way you summed it up here.

      And i’m glad you like the song and aren’t tired of happy!

      hugs

      aisha

  8. Faerie January 15, 2012 at 10:52 am #

    See, I told you he just needed to be perfect for you, according to your list he is, wonderful. I for one don’t get tired of your happy posts, so keep em comin, lol.

    • aisha January 16, 2012 at 7:23 am #

      @Faerie,

      I know!! Isn’t that just absolutely amazing!

      i’m glad you’re not tired of happy, cause i hope it goes on for a while!

      aisha

  9. mouse January 15, 2012 at 11:28 am #

    aisha,

    Yay for being happy! That’s a great list.

    Hugs,
    mouse

    • aisha January 16, 2012 at 7:24 am #

      @Mouse,

      Hugs back to you! Thanks for sharing my happy!

      aisha

  10. smilingsoul January 15, 2012 at 12:36 pm #

    Chiming in with warm smiles and fuzzies. I love to read more about your happy state of affairs. Really. Can’t have enough of happy.

    I love your list. It reminds of the Vision Boards where pictures are used to create a future a person desires. I think the universe answered loud and clear. Only time will tell. And what an exciting time it is!

    • aisha January 16, 2012 at 7:26 am #

      @Smilingsoul,

      Warm smiles and fuzzies are much appreciated – thanks!

      Yeah, the list was sort of like a verbal Vision Board. i think the universe has answered. No telling where it goes from here, but today is enough.

      Thanks for sharing the good times!

      aisha

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