Sin Asked

2 Apr

Sin wants to know what my favorite BDSM concept and activity are.  Always glad to answer questions…

My favorite BDSM activity is spanking.  Well, being spanked.  i knew i wanted spanking when i was real young.  It’s reliable.  It always makes me wet.  You don’t even have to do it, just talking about it makes me wet.  

Spanking is the meat-and-potatoes of my kink.  Or, well, given a vegetarian bent, it would have to be the vegetable soup and salad of my kink.  {No, it doesn’t have the same ring to it, does it?}

Nipple play ~ nipple torture ~ whatever you want to call it, is a close second.  Real close.  Hmmmm.  Is it ~ could it be? No.  Never mind.

Spanking is Number One.

i like the feel of His hand on my ass, the snap of a belt being pulled out of the loops, the whistle of the cane…  o, yes.

i could go on about that for a long time.  Actually, i think i have before.  {smiling}

i can feel his hand coming down on her - my? - ass...

But ok, yes, putting that aside…

BDSM concept.  What is my favorite BDSM concept?

There are so many i like.  Power.  Control. Obedience.

i love obedience.  The idea of doing as i’m told.  Of minding Him.  i love being told what to do.   {That would be a surprise to some people.  But it true, at least in a D/s relationship.}

But that’s not it.  Not my favorite.

i think my favorite concept is service.

And maybe i’m not even sure yet what that means.  

The stupid on-line dictionary says:

“an act of helpful activity; help; aid: to do someone a service,” which is such a horrible definition ~ an act of activity?  Whoever wrote that should be punished immediately.

So i went to my real dictionary, the one my mama gave me when i graduated from high school.  It said:

“Performance of labor for the benefit of another, or at another’s command.”  Much better.

But still ~  i’m not sure that “cock worship” is quite covered in that definition, although theoretically i suppose it is.

So, what i think is that my life is supposed to be about service, and BDSM lets that encompass all kinds of things.  Lots of times people mean domestic service, and you know that’s not really my strong suit.  Fortunately, i don’t think that’s what my Sir wants from me either.

Although ~ physical kinds of service, massages, preparing meals, fixing His coffee, and such are included actually.   But ~

Darn it, Sin, i didn’t know this was going to be a tough question!  i’ve got all kinds of ideas and feelings floating around in my head and can’t explain them.

Ok.  Fine.  i’ll have to come back to it if i’m gonna explain better.  Can’t do it this morning.

Laughing…  and i’m really annoyed with myself for not being able to describe it!  But here ~

There’s a video on Youtube that shows a woman practicing her slave positions.  Sir showed it to me the other night, He wants me to let Him know which of those my old body is capable of doing.  laughing… No, He didn’t say it that way, but that is the question.

Here it is:

At  the 38 second mark, she  lifts her arms, palms up, as if offering. i think maybe she’s just offering her wrists to be chained, but it’s still the gesture that i feel when i think about service.

Thanks for asking, Sin.  Is that answer enough, or do you want more?

P.S.  i love all of your responses to the quiz yesterday ~ will go answer them all, but just want to say ~ the correct answer was #2!  i had, indeed, been used and abused in the best possible way, and then slept in practically forever.  

8 Responses to “Sin Asked”

  1. sin April 2, 2012 at 7:42 am #

    Ha, the title made me laugh out loud, as did some of the contents. And I desperately need that this week, as I start week 2 of stupid broken foot.

    It’s funny that it’s a hard question isn’t it? I think that some of it is just that there aren’t words, or words that we know, or words that we are used to putting with our concepts. That’s one of the reasons blogging is so great, because it helps us form our ideas and feelings by forcing us to put language around feelings. Deep huh?

    Good answers.


    • aisha April 3, 2012 at 7:03 am #

      Hi, Sin,

      i’m glad you enjoyed it! And that it made you laugh.

      Yes, i totally agree, blogging forces us to put our thoughts out there, for ourselves first of all, and there’s tremendous value in that. {Grinning…} very deep.

      i love that you’ve put the question out there for either people to struggle with!


  2. vanillamom April 2, 2012 at 8:51 am #

    Ha! That was the question YOU asked me…and gosh it took me an entire weekend to frame an answer that made a modicum of sense!! Yay to sin for turning it back on you!


    It’s hard to “pick one” isn’t it? There are so many “little” components. The look in His eyes. The subtle gestures that we’ve clued in on that mean a variety of things. Even the little finger flick to turn around? I love that.

    And it comes down under that heading of submission or Dominant control…but to just pick one part of that? Impossible.

    You did a good job summing it all up.

    BTW …that is almost “slave yoga”…i saw a version of snake, sphinx, down dog…and she is amazingly (young) flexible… *lol*… “Yes, Sir, I can lay on my belly, face down for you”…Laughing, laughing…


    • aisha April 3, 2012 at 7:05 am #


      Yep, it’s a hard one, and that surprised me too!

      And omg, yes, she’s fairly amazing in the video. i could do belly down, yes, and probably kneel on all fours… laughing, but i won’t look nearly as elegant as she does.



  3. faerie April 2, 2012 at 12:18 pm #

    The kinky version of the sun salutation , love it !!!! Too bad my body isn’t that flexible anymore 😦

    I find it interesting that you don’t find cock worship an act of service. Aren’t you are performing an act of labor for the benefit of another, or at another’s command?

    The definition doesn’t say it has to be to your detriment or that you can’t benefit from it as well.

    • aisha April 3, 2012 at 7:18 am #

      Dear faerie

      Yes, i miss the flexibility of youth too sometimes – not that i fully appreciated it when i had it!

      And yes, you’re right, cock worship probably does fit as an act of service when you put it that way. Yeah. i think i was thinking ~ i don’t know what i was thinking… laughing… i stand corrected. Or would that be “kneel corrected?” lol

      And no, service is often to my benefit too!

      thanks, Faerie,



  4. mouse April 2, 2012 at 6:09 pm #

    Great answer!!

    It’s such a complicated question..


    • aisha April 3, 2012 at 7:18 am #

      Thanks, Mouse!! It is complex, isn’t it?



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