Life and Love

11 Apr

i found out today  that my friends’ baby died.  

i’ve known them since they were teenagers, the mom and dad, they’re good friends of my daughter, and my friends too, now that they’re all grown.  i watched them grow up and get married and have kids.  And their baby, who was only a few months old, is dead.  

My Sir says we are reminded that life is short and fragile, and so i told him i love Him, because He’s right, it is.  Too short not to say it sometimes.  It doesn’t matter if He says it back, or even if He loves me.  

And then i told my sister too, cause i probably don’t tell her often enough.

And when my daughter has her baby, my grandchild, and moves to Very Far Away, i will try really, really hard not to complain, because really, alive and well is all we really need.


“Life is both sad and solemn. We are led into a wonderful world, we meet one another here, greet each other—and wander together for a brief moment. Then we lose each other and disappear as suddenly and unreasonably as we arrived.” 
― Jostein GaarderSophie’s World

30 Responses to “Life and Love”

  1. abby April 11, 2012 at 6:54 am #

    I am so very sorry.Your Sir is right, but it is a painful reminder. hugs abby

    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 6:50 pm #

      Thank you, Abby,



  2. Striving for Peace April 11, 2012 at 6:59 am #

    oh love,

    I’m so sorry.

    hugs — and love


    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 6:50 pm #

      Thank you, Sfp. Really.



  3. yesthankyousir April 11, 2012 at 7:11 am #

    Sending everyone in your life heaps of comfort now.


    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 6:51 pm #

      Thank you, Andi. We can use it for sure, and i appreciate it!



  4. greengirl April 11, 2012 at 7:19 am #

    I am so sorry. The losses and sadnesses seem to come in a clump and that makes it hard.

    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 6:52 pm #

      Thank you, Greengirl ~ it does seem to work like that. This is actually the third recent loss ~ people who’ve died ~ who my daughter was close to.



  5. heather1 April 11, 2012 at 7:43 am #

    So sorry for their loss. No matter the age, when we loose someone to death, it hurts and sometimes makes no sense. Sending healing thoughts to you and your friends.


    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 6:56 pm #

      Thank you, Heather. We can use the healing for sure.



  6. MsConstanceExplains April 11, 2012 at 8:03 am #

    I think sometimes the saddest thing about the death of someone so very young is all the firsts that are lost – words, steps, school days, all the hopes that must have rested on very fragile shoulders. I’m terribly sorry for the loss.

    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 6:57 pm #

      Yes, i think you are so right. It is the loss of all the future first’s, all the could have beens… Thank you, Ms. Constance.



  7. vanillamom April 11, 2012 at 8:28 am #

    I am so, so, so sorry.

    how absolutely tragic.

    Sending many hugs…


    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 6:58 pm #

      Thank you, ‘Nilla. We can use all the hugs you can send. Thanks.

      hugs back to you,


  8. faerie April 11, 2012 at 8:50 am #

    Death is a natural part of life, but the loss of a child does not seem natural. I’m so sorry for your loss, sending lots of positive energy and healing thoughts to you and your friends.

    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 6:58 pm #

      Dear faerie,

      It does just seem unfair… Thank you for the positive energy and healing thoughts, i’ll pass them on.



  9. faithful April 11, 2012 at 9:13 am #

    I am so sorry too and when horrible things like this happen- words just don’t seem adequate.



    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 7:00 pm #

      Thank you, Faithful. I know what you mean about words not being adequate, and yet somehow they do help.



  10. lil April 11, 2012 at 10:24 am #

    *Sits down quietly and offers a cup of tea.

    There are some things that words just can’t help. But it does matter that we say how we feel while we can. Because we don’t always get that second chance. And it’s a chance better taken than lost.

    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 7:01 pm #

      Smiling… thank you, Lil. i’ll take that tea.

      And yes, that’s a silver lining of loss, isn’t it? That it’s suddenly dreadfully important to me that my loved ones know they’re loved.



  11. jade April 11, 2012 at 10:48 am #

    No words. Just lit a white candle for you….and the family. Glad you said, and feel, the L-word.

    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 7:03 pm #

      Thank you, Jade, dear. i like the idea of you lighting a candle.

      And yeah, me too. The L-word. {laughing….} it’s ok to say it. LOVE!



  12. mouse April 11, 2012 at 10:58 am #

    sitting in tears reading this and agree wholeheartedly with what everyone said…

    sending many many hugs,

    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 7:12 pm #

      Thank you, Mouse. i was afraid this would touch close to your heart.

      many hugs,


  13. Conina April 11, 2012 at 12:45 pm #

    So sad for them.

    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 7:12 pm #

      Dear Conina,

      Thank you



  14. little monkey April 11, 2012 at 3:14 pm #

    “Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”
    – old Inuit saying

    “It doesn’t matter if He says it back, or even if He loves me.” It doesn’t matter, does it? Love is meant to be given away freely, not hoarded. It ceases to be love if you hold on to it.

    • aisha April 11, 2012 at 7:14 pm #

      O, i like the quote, LM. Thank you.

      And yes. Given away in handfuls. Strewn around like confetti {smiling…}



  15. littleOne April 11, 2012 at 8:49 pm #

    My heart goes out to those poor people. Life is short. Life is precious and you are so right, we often dn’t say I love you enough. or even tell our friends how much we admire them and love them.


    • aisha April 12, 2012 at 6:07 am #

      Thank you, LittleOne, i appreciate the support.



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