A Quote on Dominance

6 Jun

“We who are dominant tend to think of that aspect of being a werewolf as rank: who is obeyed, who is to obey. Dominant and submissive. But it is also who is to protect and who is to be protected. A submissive wolf is not incapable of protecting himself: he can fight, he can kill as readily as any other. But a submissive doesn’t feel the need to fight — not the way a dominant does. They are a treasure in a pack. A source of purpose and of balance. Why does a dominant exist? To protect those beneath him, but protecting a submissive is far more rewarding because a submissive will never wait until you are wounded or your back is turned to see if you are truly dominant to him. Submissive wolves can be trusted. And they unite the pack with the goal of keeping them safe and cared for.”
~~ Patricia Briggs

Interesting, isn’t it?

Of course, it’s about werewolves.  That probably don’t even exist.  i say “probably” just in case they really do.

But is it about human submissives and dominants too?

In humans, do submissives hold the social group together safely?  Are we a source of “purpose and balance?”

8 Responses to “A Quote on Dominance”

  1. vanillamom June 6, 2012 at 7:56 am #

    interesting quote (tho I don’t believe in werewolves (nor vampires!)…and you know I’m going to say there is a balance there.

    But as M often (OFTEN) says to me…it’s His way…He’ll take my thoughts or comments into consideration…but He knows me (often) better than I know myself.

    The balance is not a true (as in equal) balance. But with so much strength on the one side, there is a balance on the yin side to that much power…it might not look equal…but they balance each other out (or the universe might implode or something).

    All I can think of for an analogy is those darn anti-matter engines on the USS Enterprise (the tv one!)…the antimatter, dark, fearful stuff, was properly harnessed and was available to propel the starship forward, often through some pretty nasty stuff. If it ran loose, it could be horribly destructive…

    does any of this make any sense? who the f uck knows? not i! LOL.


    • mouse June 6, 2012 at 11:19 am #

      antimatter was also used as a weapon too.

    • aisha June 7, 2012 at 5:30 am #

      Dear ‘Nilla,

      Interesting analogy to antimatter – laughing… i had not thought of it that way, but i see what you’re saying.

      And yes, of course there’s balance, always. i agree.

      And you don’t believe in werewolves? Or vampires? LOL – how mundane…

      Ok, i don’t either, but you never know!



  2. mouse June 6, 2012 at 11:19 am #

    Hmm interesting. More interesting tho than the quote might be that you leave a door open for werewolves to exist.

    In real wolf packs for example, the Dominant one is more or less the glue that holds the rest of pack together. If something happens to him, the rest will either form a new pack or try to join other packs.

    As a non-werewolf (or vampire), mouse would have to say that maybe we are the source of purpose and balance…Or maybe it’s them that give us purpose and balance…

    • aisha June 7, 2012 at 5:34 am #

      Hi, Mouse,

      Ok, i don’t actually think werewolves exist ~ but i’ve never seen a ghost either, and yet i’m not sure they don’t exist… if that makes sense. And if we’re sure something doesn’t exist, then we’re certainly never going to see it!

      Wolf packs are interesting, aren’t’ they? I should go read up on them…

      Although, i probably have better things to do today…



  3. heather1 June 9, 2012 at 10:36 am #

    I just love her books so who cares if they exist or not. I think all men have a little alpha wolf in them, especially the ones we like and/or love.


    • aisha June 10, 2012 at 11:46 am #

      Hi, Heather1,

      You know what? i haven’t even read her books. i guess maybe i should… Thanks!


  4. Wordwytch June 10, 2012 at 4:20 pm #

    First off, I love her books. Like many good books, if you take out the werewolf, they still work as human relationships. If there is no one to protect, what good is a shephard? It is a give and take relationship no matter which way you cut it.

    Just as there are Doms and subs, alphas and betas, there are shephards and those that need protected. I look at the world from a slightly different perspective because of lots of time spent as a military spouse. Wolf was Special Ops. Hell, there are days I think he is still Special Ops. Just like there is no such thing as an ex-marine.

    I do write werewolf stories. I base a lot of who and what the wolves are on two kinds of behaviour. Real wolves and well,… Special Ops and Wolf. (LOTS of D/s in that paradigm and if you don’t think so, think about interrogations) His comment is that he is a Shepherd. It is his duty to protect. That goes right along with what Patricia Briggs writes. In our D/s relationship, Wolf puts on his Dom hat when I need taken care of. Hence, he protects. And by giving him something to protect/take care of, I in turn take care of him. He provides me the safe space to be me.

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