17 Jul

Stumbled across this quote by a poet a friend mentioned to me:

There is a lovely root to the word humiliation – from the latin word humus, meaning soil or ground. When we are humiliated, we are in effect returning to the ground of our being.

Shedding the carapace we have been building so assiduously on the surface, we must by definition give up exactly what we thought was necessary to protect us from further harm. The outlaw is the radical, the one close to the roots of existence. The one who refuses to forget their humanity and in remembering, helps everyone else remember too.

To die inside, is to rob our outside life of any sense of arrival from that interior. Our work is to make ourselves visible in the world. This is the soul’s individual journey, and the soul would much rather fail at its own life than succeed at someone else’s.

~~ David Whyte

i like the idea ~ or i’m drawn to it ~ of our souls being on their own journey that may or may not coincide with where we think we’re going.  

Thomas Moore writes a lot about creating soul, growing our souls, and JM, the amazing analyst, has the same view.  It’s a little bit different way of seeing things, this idea that our bodies exist to support our souls.

i’ve read some blogs lately that were talking about humiliation as a fetish, and trying to figure out why they were turned on by it.  Thought this was an interesting perspective.

On the home front, all is well.  No sub drop {and thanks, Donna, for reminding me not to expect it, self-fulfilling prophecies being what they are.}

Sir and i had a lovely, quiet evening at home last night.  We talked a little bit about the previous evening, rehashed some favorite parts.  He’s already planning future activities, of course.

And He surprised me because He already knows what He wants me to wear to the play party at COPE in September.  Really.  He has it planned out.  

And it involves nipple clamps.  


No, i don’t think that will be humiliating.  Exactly.  At least i don’t think so.  i mean, that’s not what got me thinking about humiliation.  The quote made me think about humiliation.

So after a light dinner, last night, Sir let me rub His back ~ His lower back was hurting, not from the night before, but just because.  i massaged with my hands for a while, but then, because it wasn’t just a sensual massage, i got my killer massager and used that.

Here it is:

It’s a serious massager.  i have a number of implements of massage, from the cheap, battery operated ones you slide your feet into to this one ~ and a foot massager of equal power.

Anyhow, this one not only made His back feel better last night, but it still feels better this morning, so that’s pretty cool.  

And then we curled up together, and He played with me, but just for a minute, before we fell asleep.

This post seems kind of disjointed to me.  i might still be a little spacy.  But this is what i’ve got today.  And nothing wrong with spacy, right?


13 Responses to “Humiliation”

  1. yesthankyousir July 17, 2012 at 7:35 am #

    I like spacey! And those massagers are ahhhmazing.

    • aisha July 18, 2012 at 10:12 am #

      Thanks, Andi. 🙂 And they are all that and a damn bag of chips!


  2. vanillamom July 17, 2012 at 7:51 am #

    “spacey” just means that your soul is brimming over with happy, and is bouncing around inside you like champaigne bubbles, just waiting for the cork to pop, and pour your happy onto others.



    • aisha July 18, 2012 at 10:13 am #

      Hey, ‘Nilla,

      That’s about the truth, isn’t it?



  3. Floridadom July 17, 2012 at 8:39 am #

    Nothing wrong with spacey. Good to write what is in your head.


    • aisha July 18, 2012 at 10:13 am #

      Thank you, FD! Always nice to hear that from the Dominant side!


  4. greengirl July 17, 2012 at 11:49 am #

    Humiliation – the small, tiny bit he uses with me, and against all logic, reassures me – i think it reinforces for me that he really does feel i’m his to do with as he pleases. And – i’m a sadist when it comes to massage – but effective.Very cool to see the simple happy things in your life right now.

    • aisha July 18, 2012 at 10:15 am #

      Hi, Gg,

      Yes, i think there’s an extra zing to submitting to things that are a touch humiliating. And so many things can be! i still feel a twinge of humiliation when He makes me count and ask for “another one, please.”

      Thank you.


  5. Wordwytch July 17, 2012 at 11:59 pm #

    Humiliation… not my thing. But, that’s me. Interesting quote though.

    As for your weapons of MASSage distruction… very nifty. I love a good massage, and rarely get one.

    • aisha July 18, 2012 at 10:16 am #

      Hi, Wordwytch,

      Glad you liked the quote!

      One cannot get enough good massages. 🙂


      • Wordwytch July 18, 2012 at 4:11 pm #

        Nope, not ever…


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