Submission Question – Day 2

26 Aug

Describe who you might submit to and how.

At this point in my life, i wouldn’t submit to anyone except my Sir.  Typically, i would submit to someone i was involved with.

Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom?

i am not officially submissive anywhere except in the bedroom.  However, because i want to please my Sir very much, i often “submit” in the sense of doing what He wants, doing or not doing things in a way that pleases him, outside of the bedroom.  

We do not have the kind of relationship in which He is the final word on life decisions.   We do not believe he is the “Head of the Household” by virtue of being male.  

We believe that we are both capable people who have functioned independently fairly effectively.  We believe we have equal power.   i chose to relinquish my power to Him, and trust Him to take it at times and in ways that are appropriate. 

We are still fairly new in the relationship, i don’t know where this will take us, but i don’t ever imagine Him telling me to do things that would in any way be harmful for me.

Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life?

My submission isn’t a role, and it’s not just in the context of “a scene.”    But i’m not sure i can explain exactly how it works.  Hmmmm.  i’ll have to think about that.

Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?

Only in the context of a relationship, at this time.  In the past, i have had play partners that i chose to submit to in a scene, but only a few times, and there was always some relationship context around it.



Tomorrow is the day i officially settle back into a groove, get caught up on life, read and comment on the zillion blog posts i’ve missed, and so on.   

Today, we have Sir’s family coming over.  Take-out Chinese is the order of the day, but there’s some cleaning that needs to happen first.

i feel so out of touch with all of you. 

See ya soon.


6 Responses to “Submission Question – Day 2”

  1. vanillamom August 26, 2012 at 8:34 am #

    I’m so glad that you’ve taken this time for yourself, to …put into proper places all the emotions and experiences from your trip. You’ve given yourself permission to just *be*…and that, my heartsister, is truly an amazing thing to me. You don’t “need” me to be proud of you, but I am. (you’re a role model, you know!). Take your time…I’ll still be here when you come back. Hugs and much love…


    ps great questions; sometimes I feel these sorts of essays don’t fully address the part-time submissive…those of us who don’t live it 24/7, but who are still in a committed relationship with a Master/Dom/Domme/Top. You did a good job of dealing with that in a way that I could really relate to. 🙂

    • aisha August 28, 2012 at 2:53 pm #

      Thanks, ‘Nilla, glad you liked the post, and that the questions seem relevant across different types of D/s relationships. Masterwildfilly is posting them – not sure where she found them – but i’m enjoying answering.

      And i’m SO glad to be home – and yes, to have taken some time for myself. 🙂 Thanks for the support.



  2. Wordwytch August 26, 2012 at 11:59 am #


    I find that your answers echo my own. Interesting. I agree with Nilla too, that there are too many missing bits for those that don’t have a 24/7 relationship.

    As for taking time to adjust back to “home”, I’m very glad you are doing so. Hope you have a great day.


    • aisha August 28, 2012 at 2:55 pm #

      Thanks, Wordwytch, glad my responses resonated with you. And thanks for the welcome home!



  3. lil August 26, 2012 at 12:01 pm #

    Hope you have fun getting back into your groove!
    The wonderful thing about archives is that one can’t really be truly out of touch–just in need of catching back up. And sometimes it’s kind of fun, like having goodies saved up and finally getting to consume them.

    • aisha August 28, 2012 at 2:56 pm #

      Hi, Lil,

      Nice to see you here!!! Thanks for stopping by ~ and for the support.

      Yeah, that’s a good way to look at it. I’ll have treats for days ahead of me!



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