Day 10 ~ Questions ~ 30 Days of Submission

4 Sep

Does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your submissive relationships?

O, yeah.  You already know that. In fact, all of my BDSM occurs as part of my submissive relationship.

How do you feel about BDSM? Is it core to your submission, peripheral or non-existent (other than the submission part)?

You know, i don’t guess i ever considered the possibility of being submissive without the kink.  What would that look like? 

i guess it would be like a 50’s housewife, maybe?  Although even they got spanked sometimes, right?

No, seriously, i don’t see that happening.  Not in my lifetime.  Outside of the kink, i am more about service than submission.  Tomorrow’s question asks about that.

Sometimes i wonder ~ with vanilla friends, i often let them pick the restaurant we’re going to or the day and time, and i wonder sometimes if that’s a form of submission.  But i don’t think so.  i think it’s just being easy-going and having friends that i trust to like the same places i do.

So if they said “Let’s go to the new Thai place,” i’d say, “Oooooh, i’m not a big fan of Thai, how about…” and suggest somewhere else.

Anyhow, i am easygoing, and that makes my life easier, but anyone who knows me will also tell you that i get what i want plenty.

On a whole different note, Sir reminded me yesterday that it was our anniversary ~ well, the anniversary of our first date.  i knew that, but had forgotten. i mean, i thought about it a couple of weeks ago, and then forgot.   i’m terrible about stuff like that.

But it was ok that we didn’t do some big official “anniversary celebration,” because we’d had a lovely weekend, and He took me out for breakfast yesterday morning, which was sweet, and really, i’m just happy with the way things are.

i went back and looked at my blog entry from the day after our first date, here.  That was when He officially became Sir X.  i say:

This is a man who savors.  Who knows how to plan.  Who likes to scope things out before He acts.

We are very different from each other, and we are kindred spirits.

So i don’t know where this path with Him goes, but i need to find out.

i sure called that one right, didn’t i?

i was in the middle of The Major fantasies back then, and pretty much abandoned them for Sir X.  Prophetic, wasn’t it?

Since this is such a short post, i thought i’d share this with you too ~ an article entitled  8 Barbaric Old School Contraceptives and Sexual Deterrents.  It features pessaries and chastity belts ~ male and female.  The male chastity belt with the cold water reservoir was nice, but my favorite ~ and yes, i’m thinking of Mick at Under Contract to My Wife when i say this ~ is this one:

It was the:

Jugum Penis/Spermatorrhoea Ring (1880s-1920s)

Similar in purpose to the male anti-masturbation devices, the Jugum Penis curbed not only masturbation but also specialized in preventing nocturnal emissions, the involuntary release of sperm that was diagnosed in the Victorian era as a disease called “spermatorrhoea” or “seminal weakness.” The device was a metal ring with jagged spikes lining the edge pointed inward. A clip was used to attach the ring to the base of the penis, and when an erection increased the penis’ girth, it would come in contact with the sharp spikes, causing the wearer enough discomfort to deter ejaculation.

Just for the record, no, i don’t think Mick, or anyone should have to use it, but i figured it would make him appreciate how easy he really has it, right?

Time to exercise… i’m on a schedule these days.  

7 Responses to “Day 10 ~ Questions ~ 30 Days of Submission”

  1. vanillamom September 4, 2012 at 10:29 am #

    I’m soooo far behind (she moans, head in hands)….but how can I not comment on you, and Sir X?

    Having met him IRL, I’d have to agree with your early assessments…he is a very special man, and absolutely *perfect* for my heartsister.

    I love watching your evolution. I love seeing you happy.

    These are good questions…for me…sex and submission go hand in hand. Maybe because of being deprived of so much of it for so long? Not sure, but I know that I would not be happy with a platonic submission.



    • aisha September 7, 2012 at 2:17 pm #

      Hey, ‘Nilla,

      And i’m just now catching up! Good grief!

      Yep, i’m with you, platonic submission, no thanks. Non-kinky sex all the time? No, thanks… just saying

      And yeah, happy sigh, He is all that and a bag of chips, isn’t he?



  2. Wordwytch September 4, 2012 at 2:48 pm #

    Nodding with Nilla and you. Only real difference is that BDSM is not the core of our relationship. It’s the spice.

    As for that cock ring… :::shudder:::

    • aisha September 7, 2012 at 2:17 pm #

      Hi, Wordwytch,

      What? You don’t think Wolf would like the cock ring??? lol…


      • Wordwytch September 9, 2012 at 2:32 am #

        LOL! NOPE! Nor would I get farther than showing it to him… LOL. Such picky men.

        Once upon a time, a LONG time ago, someone persuaded Wolf to “try out/inspect” some cuffs and chains. This was on a water bed… and the chains were bolted into the wood of the bed. When she wouldn’t undo the chains and cuffs, he got pissed. She laughed, thinking she could finally have her way with him. Wrong. He tore the chains out of the wood, and ruptured the water bed. He walked out of the room trailing the chains as the house flooded. Needless to say, he never spoke to her again.

  3. sin September 4, 2012 at 7:02 pm #

    that’s actually a really interesting thought. Submission without the kink. Might be a post there…

    • aisha September 7, 2012 at 2:18 pm #

      And you did an interesting post on it, Sin!!


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