A New Group

15 Oct

Last night i went to a new kinky group here in Where-i-Live.  A Meet-n-Greet,  focused on getting to know each other and exploring what we want the group to be.

About 25 people were there {i’m totally guessing, but that’s what i think.}  It was in the restaurant that Ms. Constance and ‘nilla and i went to, back when ‘nilla visited forever-ago.  

The place is closed on Sunday evening, but they opened just for us.  They serve an interesting selection of food.  The polar opposite of traditional cuisine ~ i had the mushroom burger, which was made from ground mushroom, and a side of smoked collard.   No bread, no sweet potatoes, no tomato jam ’cause i’m on the stupid 17 day diet.

{If Sir heard me say that, He’d say, “The stupid 17 day diet?  Why don’t you go on the smart 17 day diet?” Don’t you hate love the way you start to hear them in your head?}

Anyhow.  They had us fill out a questionnaire ~ things like:

  • 3 favorite fetishes?  (don’t be shy)
  • 3 things you would like learn more about
  • What super hero (or villain) do you most identify with?
  • Favorite play implement?
  • What makes a power exchange important for you?
  • What sort of play do you most enjoy?

They told us ahead of time that we’d be exchanging them with someone else, and collected them.  Once we’d all settled in with food and drinks, they re-distributed them, and we took turns reading each one aloud.

It was fun.  Mildly embarrassing, but fun, and an effective icebreaker.

Then we talked about the kinds of activities, discussions, and demos that we’d like to have, agreed that we’d hold these at people’s houses.  i was quiet, busy listening and watching.  i’m can be such an introvert.

i don’t want to learn a lot about different kinds of play right now, i really want understand more about how kink and past trauma connect.  You know, someday, i want to do classes on Trauma Informed Kink.  

But that’s down the road somewhere.  In the meantime, it looks like it will be a fun group, and i hope Sir  enjoys it too.

When i came home, Sir was already here.  He had watched some football with friends, and gotten home about 20 minutes ahead of me.  We hugged, chatted for a bit, and i was starting to get sleepy when i realized ~

He was trying to pull up some videos of caning on His computer.  i quit feeling sleepy.  

But His computer won’t cooperate, so He decides to skip the video.    In moments, i find myself standing in the corner, hands behind my back, while He pulls out the toys He wants to use.

The collar goes on from behind.  He tugs it tight, a reminder of what i am, then lets it settle comfortably.  It is not the training collar, but the padlock.  The weight anchors me.

Cuffs.  The leather stiff against my wrists.

i can hear Him behind me.  The corner is still a new sensation for me, and i like the way i feel contained there.

Then i’m out of the corner, sweater off, pants down, bent over the bed.

He uses His hand, stinging sharply, but just for a minute.  Then the wooden strip, pounding  a rhythm on my ass and thighs.

i love the wooden strip.

It feels wonderful.  Sure, it hurts, and my ass gets nicely pink {at least He says it does} and after a while i’m squirming, but i love the way it feels.

After i’m nicely warmed up, He moves to TIFKA.  (The Items Formerly Known as Antenna.}  They hurt, hurt, hurt ~ and leave me hot.  

Longing to be fucked, eager to please, ready to be used.

And He does.  Uses me as He pleases, and when He is finished, and we are both sated with pleasure, He  puts me to bed.    

A lovely ending to the day.

17 Responses to “A New Group”

  1. striving for peace October 15, 2012 at 7:04 am #

    what a lovely Sunday
    community, containment and contentment



    ps — ok — this is silly — I have hated the little design that wordpress automatically assigned me — the little square that looks like a quilt square next to my name — and today — strangely — it’s changed! — Thank you WordPress!

    • striving for peace October 15, 2012 at 7:05 am #

      Bastards — the one you showed me was a trick — I’m back to this one.

      • sin October 15, 2012 at 7:26 am #

        Ha – SFP, I like it cause I know its YOU!

    • aisha October 16, 2012 at 5:25 pm #

      Dear Sfp,

      It was lovely. 🙂

      And i kind of like your little icon too – but i think you can assign yourself an icon if you really want to!



  2. tori October 15, 2012 at 7:38 am #

    Sounds a really interesting group, we live out in the sticks (in uk) and nearest munch is over 60 miles away, and sometimes i think it would be nice to have somewhere to go to discuss this lifestyle with likeminded people but blogger i think fills that gap for me but its not the same as sitting with people and talking.

    • aisha October 16, 2012 at 5:48 pm #

      Hi, Tori,

      It is different, the in-person thing. It add a layer, i think, and makes it all more real. But in many ways i feel more connected with the blogging community. i’m really lucky though, that we have a very active, diverse, inclusive BDSM community here.



  3. vanillamom October 15, 2012 at 8:10 am #

    Lovely end to the day, for certain. You have a corner, I have a wall…and yes it is an incredible feeling isn’t it? I smiled as I thought about that day in that restaurant…what a GREAT memory that is…so much laughter, good food, great company…

    Sounds like the new group got off to a great start, and nice that you all will take turns hosting the event. And hey, you almost had a dungeon in your basement now… 🙂

    Am trying to not imagine what TIFKA feels like. Just sayin’…



    • aisha October 16, 2012 at 5:50 pm #

      Hey, ‘Nilla,

      It is lovely, yes. 🙂

      And you know, we have to do the restaurant thing again, right???? It was so much fun.

      The group did get off to a nice start, and i’m looking forward to other upcoming events!

      As for the feeling of TIFKA – i don’t think it can be worse than pinches that leave big ole humongous bruises, missy! {giggles} just saying…



  4. Kitty the Submissive Wife October 15, 2012 at 10:30 am #

    Wow – and then that post took a turn. What a nice night. I am intrigued by the corner now.

    • aisha October 16, 2012 at 5:53 pm #

      Hi, Kitty,

      {laughing…} yeah, i guess it did.

      The corner is lovely. imo. 🙂



  5. ancilla_ksst October 15, 2012 at 8:35 pm #

    Mmmm, very nice. I’m hoping for something like that later…

    • aisha October 16, 2012 at 5:53 pm #

      Dear ancilla,

      It was nice, and now i’m hoping you got something like that later too!


  6. Wordwytch October 15, 2012 at 9:41 pm #

    You did have an interesting day. The new group sounds interesting. While part of me would like to attend a munch, there is the other part that not only screams no, but shuts the door and padlocks it.

    Trauma and Kink. that is an interesting topic, especially in light of our discussion of ‘bad tapes’ and how things bubble to the surface. I’d like to discuss this more at some point.

    As for your corner, and Nilla’s wall. I had the realization the other day that my spot is the bed. Odd. When I saw the pic, the first thing I thought of was the drum roll in Wipeout!, the song. We have a pair of sticks like that and Wolf loves to play drummer. 🙂

    • aisha October 16, 2012 at 6:02 pm #

      Hi, Wordwytch,

      You would love the group here. Door with padlocks or not. Maybe you should come visit?

      As for trauma and kink, yeah. It’s a fascinating topic.

      And the sticks? Sir informs me that it’s oak, this is why i like it so much. i had no idea i had such a discerning ass. lol. He says He is getting a thicker one, since this one is not leaving marks, which does not thrill me. But what’s a girl to do??? Sir is a drummer too.



      • Wordwytch October 16, 2012 at 6:35 pm #

        I probably would like the group once I got there. It’s just getting me to go in the first place. Maybe we can arrange a visit next summer for you, Nilla and me to all be in the same spot at the same time. 🙂

        Oak… hmmm… As for marks, I don’t bruise easily on certain parts of my anatomy… Red yes, bruises, no. Granted, I felt the drum sticks for hours.

  7. SirQsmlb October 15, 2012 at 10:10 pm #

    The corner – i’ve never spent time there, but find it interesting. What do you like most – how do you use it?
    I am curious about trama & kink. Please elaborate sometime.

    • aisha October 16, 2012 at 6:05 pm #

      Dear SirQsmlb,

      There was some elaboration for you. It is really complex of course, which is why i rarely comment in discussions about it on fetlife – if seems like people lock into one aspect and argue about that and all frustrated on the sidelines, going “but – but – what about???”

      Anyhow. i’ll talk about the corner sometime too. Thanks for your comments!



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