Kinky Bloggers

17 Jan

i was feeling a bit blah this morning – no, i’m not depressed, i’m talking my Vitamin D and everything’s fine.  But the weather is cold and gray and i wanted more sleep and my life is not yet perfectly to my specifications, so i was just a bit blah.  And that’s ok.

i started feeling better thinking about the marvelous discussion youall had yesterday in the comments – and jade’s blog, and tori’s blog too.  i’m still in the midst of responding to comments from my post on spirituality, and i was thinking about how insightful and empathic youall often are.

You know, that’s where my longing for a Kinky Bloggers’ convention started.  i had this mental image of a group of us, sitting around a table, drinking coffee or tea ~ or wine ~ and talking.  Just like a discussion in comments, pretty much, only we wouldn’t have to type.  

Then, in my fantasy, there were some classes on stuff.  Really, i imagined something like the Taster’s Choice event we had here recently – a wide variety of short classes on different kinds of play.  Ms. Constance describes it here.  The classes were short, and included:

… Rope Bondage by Robyn, Boot Massage by Bootblack Bella, Therapeutic Massage by Kristin, Intro to Canes by Ms Constance – yours truly – Intro to Flogging by GypsyPony, Hot Safe Sex by Leather Queer, Intro to Electrical Play by Sir Russ, Intro to Knife Play by Sir Charles, Rough Body Play by Walter Sobchak, Intro to Needles by Ms Tammy, Intro to Littles Play by Johnnie and Maggie, and Massage for Doms by Shawna the Dead.

i wanted something like that ~ a variety ~ each one just long enough to give you some idea of what the play is about.  Or there could be longer classes on some things ~ rope, for example.

i imagined us having the opportunity to go to a play party ~ together, so it wouldn’t be a scary prospect, and folks who had been to parties before would be a support for people who hadn’t.  Honestly, in my best fantasy, there were 2 play parties.

We’d have a meet-and-greet for the bloggers on Friday evening, so we could bond a little bit before the party, they go to the first one on Friday night – if you wanted to.  Then Saturday morning, we’d be drinking  coffee and processing the night before ~ and blogging, of course.  

Then we’d go to classes on Saturday, and one of them would be a discussion about trauma and how it affects your D/s experience ~ if you’ve experienced trauma before or not, and how that factors into your dynamic, and so on.  But we’d do other classes too, and we’d be sure to have a chance to get together before the Saturday evening play party and process the day a little bit, check in to make sure everyone’s doing ok.  

Then there’d be dinner and another party and if people didn’t leave early the next day, maybe a brunch with a chance for more processing and talking and laughing and saying good-bye.

Yeah.  That’s the full fantasy.  

So Ms. Constance is starting to plan the event at which some of this can happen.  Currently, there are five people trying to figure out a way to come, according to my survey.  It would be helpful to know if that’s still accurate, if there are other people definitely in or definitely out, and so on.

So talk to me ~ where are we with this idea?

35 Responses to “Kinky Bloggers”

  1. Starshine January 17, 2013 at 9:59 am #

    I’m just getting my blog started and I follow some of those that you mentioned but I would so love to come to something like that.
    Starshine

    • aisha January 17, 2013 at 10:03 am #

      Starshine! We’d LOVE for you to be there! First weekend in March. Plan on it!

  2. jade January 17, 2013 at 10:33 am #

    This sounds *delightful*…wish we were closer. SR is a bit afraid of the south. Though she would quit making fun of my accent if she heard a real thick one (giggles). We don’t have thick accents…sheesh. Okay, seriously, can’t you move the fun closer to me? Also, any chance you guys will go to the M/s conference in Maryland?

    • aisha January 17, 2013 at 10:38 am #

      Sigh Where-i-Live is not actually The South. SR would be fine, i promise. And my accent is more country than southern, imo. Sigh.

      If we have one where you are, people from other part of the country won’t be able to get there. At least i’m kinda in the middle. And no, {Big Sigh} i don’t think we’re going to the M/s conference in Maryland.

      Maybe if i talk to SR??? 🙂

      • jade January 17, 2013 at 6:21 pm #

        You have a lovely accent. 🙂 That is a lot of sighs, lady. See if you can talk SR into it and while you are at it, see if you can talk him into the M/s conference. 😀

      • aisha January 17, 2013 at 6:29 pm #

        Thank you {blushing modestly} Someone told me the other day that because of my name, they’d expected an Italian accent – really???? i was born and raised in frigging Where-i-Live! Lol

        Anyhow. It was a lot o sighs, wasn’t it? 🙂 So i can try to talk SR into it? Wait – no – what’s this about the M/s conference??? Is that what you really want? Cause then i’ll have to try to talk SR into that. Hmpf.

      • jade January 17, 2013 at 9:21 pm #

        i would like to say that i stand corrected. i am getting All. Kinds. Of. Grief. for saying that SR doesn’t like the south. Evidently, as of tonight, i am duly informed that she likes the south. Still, it looks more like we would be likely to attend the M/s conference.
        i wasn’t being awful, or i wasn’t trying to. Hell, everyone knows i have my own issues with the south, having lived in Tennessee for years and *hating* much of it. i hated the morality clause in particular and teaching things that went against my own informed studies. Meh.

      • aisha January 17, 2013 at 9:45 pm #

        O, oops, sorry. i don’t think there’s anything wrong with not like the south. And we’re not actually the south anyway. But i’m glad that SR likes it!!

        So i guess this means i’ll never get to meet you. Sigh. But i’m glad if you get to go to the M/s thing that you really want to go to. Sigh. {and giggles} i don’t suppose you could come to both?

  3. Conina January 17, 2013 at 11:42 am #

    I dunno how “we” are, but I am pretty terrified of such a prospect. 🙂

    • aisha January 17, 2013 at 11:48 am #

      Are you? Thanks for saying so here – that helps me understand why people aren’t signing up in droves. Can i ask you what’s scary about it? {O, wait, of course i can ask – you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to..} What part of it’s scary?

    • Conina January 17, 2013 at 9:16 pm #

      Pretty much Fiona’s reply here, word for word. 🙂 I generally love doing meetups, but kinky blogger meetup seems like it would have so many expectations behind it. And I am not averse to meeting kinky bloggers in general, one-at-a-time (and I have done that and it’s been amazing)…. just a large group all at once that terrifies me.

      • aisha January 17, 2013 at 9:39 pm #

        Hmmm, ok, well – it won’t be a LARGE group, and what expectations? We know each other in ways that go beyond appearance and age and all that, right? i am not actually the sex goddess you may imagine – well, only to my Sir. lol No need for terror

        It would be soooooo much fun if you came!!!

  4. SirQsMLB January 17, 2013 at 1:21 pm #

    It sounds like so much fun!!! OK…well most of it. The play party stuff sounds awesome…but I haven’t ever been to one…so the thought of going to a “first” on is terrifying…The thought of folks meeting me – the REAL me…what if they take one look at me and go…HOLY SHIT, I thought she would be more/less ____fill in the blank____. It’s daunting.

    I LOVE the idea of classes and learning. I love the idea of coffee/tea/wine and conversation…It’s just always a “first time” scared-shit feeling too – you know? I think we would need buddies…if I wasn’t by myself…if someone else had a clue and could help…IDK just thinking out loud.

    Maybe if we had idea of things we would talk about…things that we would do…kinda map it out more. This was a lot of mapping…but knowing – more. That helps with the First time freak out.

    Oh…is this something that we come to alone or with a partner? If our “other” can’t come…can we come alone? What happens then.

    OK…man, can I ramble. Sorry =)

    • aisha January 17, 2013 at 1:37 pm #

      Of course “firsts” are scary. My first play party, i was with a very experienced Dom, and i was still excited/terrified, and trying not to look like a tourist in New York City. But – the concern about us -o will you be judging us the way you’re afraid we’ll judge you??? i don’t think so. We know each other, on some deep level.

      Of course your significant other – or a friend – or whoever can come with you – and of course you can come alone. i’ll be there to be your “buddy” too – in fact, i’ll think of that as being my main function. i don’t think we’re going to get so many bloggers that it will be intimidating, although i could be wrong. If we do, i’ll ask Caile or Cerin to volunteer sometime serving as a buddy – they are two of the nicest, warmest, welcoming people you can imagine. And if Sfp comes, she’s practically an old hand, while our girl jade and her Sir Raven are experts.

      Anyhow. It would be fun. And i bet you could do it. 🙂

      • jade January 17, 2013 at 6:15 pm #

        Um…aisha…what exactly am i an expert in? tee hee. Sir Raven, of course, is an expert at everything.

      • aisha January 17, 2013 at 6:25 pm #

        YOU are an expert in going to play parties!! YOU are an expert in being a slave! Good grief, did you not tell us you spent time as a Gorean type slave?? WOW and Yikes. But mostly i meant you’d been around a dungeon or two. 🙂

  5. tori January 17, 2013 at 5:23 pm #

    Sounds great, alas im in a different country (uk) so definitley not do-able for me. Its something i miss (we used to attend events) but we now live in an isolated area, i believe the nearest munch is over 50 miles away. It is great to meet likeminded people, have some fun and learn new things along the way.

    I hope it all comes off and goes well.

    • aisha January 17, 2013 at 6:30 pm #

      Yes, it’s sad that you are so far away – not just from us, but from other events! i bet you miss it.

      Thanks for the good wishes though!

  6. Wordwytch January 17, 2013 at 6:15 pm #

    First off, we are all allowed to have blah days. Hugs!

    As for the idea of a Kinky Bloggers event. ah…. You are so far away. While I would love to attend, at this point I will just have to continue to view from afar. Maybe you could do a Google Hangout?

    • aisha January 17, 2013 at 6:27 pm #

      Hey, Wordwytch,

      Yeah, i thought a blah day was in order

      i knew you would say you were too far away 😦 But i understand. i don’t know exactly what a google hang-out is, but yes, we might want one!

      • Wordwytch January 17, 2013 at 6:57 pm #

        If we had the money, I’d be there in an instant. I have a grandbaby in Brandenburg KY. I haven’t seen her in years.

        Hangouts…. On Google +, there is a spot that says Hangouts. If you have a camera and microphone, you can talk to someone. It is like Skype. http://www.google.com/+/learnmore/hangouts/ You can have up to 10 people all chatting at once. Cool stuff. 🙂

      • aisha January 17, 2013 at 7:06 pm #

        Omigosh, that’s close!!

        i’ll check it out – hangouts – usually, you know, you can’t have phones or cameras in the play space or anything, but maybe we could have a corner for it. i’d been thinking about wanting to do something like that for folks who couldn’t be there.

      • Wordwytch January 18, 2013 at 12:25 am #

        Yes, it is close.

        And we could always have a spot that was very specifically a ‘hangout zone’.

  7. Jz January 17, 2013 at 7:24 pm #

    It’s not the distance, it’s the $$$$
    Nor am I at all certain that I’d be willing to publicly out myself.
    But that’s a moot point anyhow because… (see above)

    -Perpetually Broke Girl

    • aisha January 17, 2013 at 7:28 pm #

      If only i would win the lottery before then, there would be free tickets for many! And you could wear a mask.

      🙂

  8. Jami January 17, 2013 at 9:20 pm #

    I just wanted to pop in and say, “Hello”. I have been reading your blog for about a week now and just say how amazing of a person you are. I have learned so much.

    • aisha January 17, 2013 at 9:42 pm #

      Hi, Jami,

      And welcome – it’s great to meet you!! You’d be welcome at the convention too, ya know. Friends of bloggers and all

      Thanks for reading, and for commenting, and for the kind words!

  9. ytysreloaded January 18, 2013 at 1:01 am #

    Well I would love to be there! For firsts and seconds and meeting everyone all at once.

    • aisha January 18, 2013 at 6:09 am #

      Yay!! Does that mean you’re coming??

      • ytysreloaded January 18, 2013 at 7:59 pm #

        Get me exact dates and details. I open my business in my office next week. (Omgodess next week!!!) So if I hustle just right yes. Ill be there

      • aisha January 18, 2013 at 8:09 pm #

        Woo hooo!!! Check it out here: https://fetlife.com/events/148883 We’re in Louisville, Ky. Oh, YAY!!

  10. Kitty for Mr. Woods January 18, 2013 at 8:06 am #

    I would love to go to this! Ive been dying to go to a play party, but to go to one with all my blogger friends? Yes please!

    Everyone is talking about the South. Ive been TN and KY mentioned. Where would this event be?

    • aisha January 18, 2013 at 8:16 am #

      Yay!! It’s in Kentucky.

      i’ll post more details in the next day or two.

  11. monkey ;(|) January 19, 2013 at 9:38 am #

    I want to be there more than anything. Even if only long enough to sit in the same place, drink some tea, and chat for a while, in person. I would be smiling the whole time..I don;t think I’d be able to stop. but unless something extraordinary happens very soon, I can’t afford it. As the perpetually broke monkey of the bunch, I considered hitch hiking (not really), but sleeping in the park in March definitely doesn’t appeal.

    • aisha January 19, 2013 at 12:25 pm #

      Omigosh, and i want you to be there so much!! If i win the lottery in time, you’ll be here. If you could figure out how to get her, and admission, i’d make sure you weren’t sleeping in the park. Just saying. But hopefully we’ll be doing it all again next year!!

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