Back to “Normal” ~ Whatever That Means

6 Feb

We are no longer granddaughter sitting,  so we are back to business-as-usual ~ a better term for it, since being tied to a tether for the night is hardly considered “normal” in anyone’s lexicon.  

The comments yesterday were interesting.  i tried to open my mind to Jade and fiona’s suggestion that Sir and i carry on as usual with Sir’s granddaughter here – ok, not “carry on,” but i could sit at His feet and take His shoes off.  

i think it might be different if Sir and i had been together a long time ~ maybe.  Or if she were younger, maybe.  With a teenager ~ yeah, i don’t know.  i think it would require some explanation.  

She’s just starting to date.  Do i want her to think she should sit at her boyfriend’s feet and take his shoes off?  Nah.  i don’t think so.  

As for acting like i’m more comfortable sitting on the floor?  Um, ya know, i’m 56 years old.  i can do the floor, but after a little bit, you would be hard-pressed to believe i was more comfortable there.  🙂

On a whole other note ~ Ms. Constance wanted to know what seven things i would say about her, and some of you actually egged that curiosity on.  Right?  Yes, you know who you are.

So okay, you’ve twisted my arm enough, here we go.  i don’t really have seven interesting things about her that you don’t already know ~ for example ~

~ She has red hair

~ She has dogs that she’s absolutely crazy about.  Not just “dogs” but Scottish terriers.  They are adorable, of course.

~ She’s short, but she can still sweep into a room like she was 6-foot tall.

~ She keeps slave drew on a long tether, which works well for both of them, but make no mistake about it, the tether is there.

Sure, i could have told you stuff like that, but what i was really thinking about telling you is this.  

{Whispering…} Ms. Constance can raise an eyebrow and cast fear into the heart of most submissive folks.  But don’t let that fool you.  Underneath that sometimes gruff exterior is a kind and caring woman, who will go way out of her way to help just about anyone in distress.  

And maybe you already knew that too ~ but i can imagine her face when she reads this.  There’s a particular look she gets when she’s all prepped and ready to be gruff, and finds herself on the receiving end of a compliment instead.  That’s the look i was imagining yesterday.

But don’t take my word for it ~ come to KBC and see for yourself!

9 Responses to “Back to “Normal” ~ Whatever That Means”

  1. sirqsmlb February 6, 2013 at 10:10 am #

    Well short lived granddaughter-sitting…glad you are back to business as usual. Ya, everyone has to find their own norm for their relationship. Kinda like those people who always wear dresses, no one says anything, because that’s how it always is. Then there are the people who NEVER do, and then when they do it’s a huge deal and people always comment and ask what the occasion is. It’s whatever is your norm. It’s tricky. Especially when you’re around younger people and want them to be well adjusted and find THEIR way and make their norm.

    I typed that I was sorry to egg on…but then I deleted it, because no, I’m not. hehehe


    • aisha February 7, 2013 at 7:02 am #

      Hey, Fiona,

      Yes, it was fun having the granddaughter here, but ok that she’s gone. 🙂 i don’t know what it would have been likely if i’d been living a submissive lifestyle when my kids were younger – that’s an interesting speculation.

      And i knew you weren’t sorry you egged that on! 🙂

  2. jadescastle February 6, 2013 at 11:56 am #

    Tee hee. Someone has to go deal with this and its *not* me. The telling stuff about Ms. Constance and the Look that should be trademarked., that is. Yep. Have fun at the KBC. She does know where you live, you know. 😛

    As an aside, i always did have a thing for redheads with a presence! 🙂

    i think that you should buy a floor pillow, a real one. They help out a lot. i used to have one that was cream colored leather and i miss it muchly.

    My point was that if you excude emotional comfort with what you are doing, people will accept an awful lot without questioning you. If you excude emotional discomfort, defensive or worried energy, its like a spotlight is on you and your behaviors. That has nothing to do with your ass falling asleep while you are sitting on the floor, which is not just an age thing. Do you think my ass never falls asleep? Seriously?!? 😛 i’d point our relative age difference right now but i don’t want to feel your Look. Yeah. Moving on…

    Knowing you, i’d say that you want your grandchild to be comfortable with herself, her relationships, and her sexuality. You showing confidence in your own matters hugely. Of course, if taking off his shoes (or whatever) is going to make you hugely uncomfortable, it isn’t worth it. But….really….what if she would like to be more comfortable doing things like that for her boyfriend and never saw an example of this that also was confident and from a confident woman? The “submissive” behaviors i saw were largely stereotyped rigid stuff that didn’t seem to bring anyone joy (not either spouse). It would have been nice to have seen a different example, even if i had never been involved in TTWD.

    i’m just trotting out a different point of view born of different experiences, seeing as i have done those things infront of teenagers. Obviously, its just one point of view but i thought it might be helpful or wouldn’t have said it.

    When we had a teenaged guest, Sir Raven sent me a text which is read aloud when i open up my cell. i have no control over my phone reading the message b/c that is how it was set up. i was nervous about opening it because i once got a message that read *aloud* “next time i get my hands on you, bitch, i will have my blood snot and tears.” At lunch. Having lunch with Sir and fam. Anyhow i just walked back to the bedroom and opened the text which read, “Come get my plate and bring me more water.” i had a mini panic attack about the teen walking into the room and seeing the wall of canes, whips, floggers. She was already aware of what these things were for. i would not have let her see them had i known she was coming or going back there but it was no big deal. Teens are quite sophisticated about ttwd. If a buggywhip and a straightjacket didn’t give her pause, i’d guess the tether wouldn’t have sent her into therapy either. 😀 Last time the kid came it was planned, and we hung scarves and such from the rack just incase. But…she survived. i had a mini panic attack about what she saw but she was soooo okay. lol.

    • aisha February 7, 2013 at 7:09 am #

      Good idea on the floor cushion, Jade! And it’s not my ass falling asleep that’s the problem, you know – it’s the old knees and hips yelling at me when i try to get up.

      i love the story about the teenager at your house! Life here in the Bible Belt is tricky though… at least in my mind. But it is helpful to have a different perspective to contemplate – thanks for sharing your thoughts, as always.



      • jadescastle February 7, 2013 at 8:32 am #

        No, its not in your mind about fears due to the deep south. Had we been there, i would have half expected a child protective swat team to swoop in. i’d be afraid for adults to see what we have here, let alone kids. Sir Raven has had to explain often to me that TTWD won’t get you arrested here. 🙂 People don’t even loose their jobs behind it. She is doing jury duty and a woman is openly reading “Fifty Shades” on breaks. Can you imagine doing *that* in a courthouse in the deep south? i cannot. 🙂

  3. Wordwytch February 7, 2013 at 5:22 pm #

    I have to admit that I would go conservative around company. Just safer.
    I love the bits about Ms.Constance. I was doing comparisons… what could I say about Wolf, and realized that some of the same things apply. 🙂

  4. MsConstanceExplains February 7, 2013 at 5:31 pm #

    I take great exception to that, I am mean and cruel and have a heart of blackest coal, I am as immovable as the Rock of Gibraltar and have a heart equally as hard.

    Got it?


    Now quiver in fear. 🙂

  5. MsConstanceExplains February 7, 2013 at 5:41 pm #

    I *do* however have the three cutest dogs on the actual planet, and each of them individually is the VERY cutest dog ever in the history of the world, all at the same time, and that feat tells you just how talented each and every one of them are.

    So THAT part is true.

    And I am short, but people always guess my height at least a few inches taller. I have, I’m told, a TALL personality.

    And if I tried to keep slave drew on TOO short a leash, he would just end up like the dogs do, you know, when they twine it around the legs of chairs and tables and eventually tangle themselves to a point that the furniture gets pulled together or upended. drew has to go check on the recycling situation of the place, you know, and see if they have solar panels somewhere within sight, and possibly see what species of birds are around, and watch the news for a minute or two, and go check on the car or house or dogs or whatever is not in the immediate vicinity.

  6. Wordwytch February 8, 2013 at 10:54 pm #

    LOL! I have been reading this to Wolf. He has been laughing!

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