Does anyone feel like they’re getting enough kink, enough control, enough sex, enough of it all?
i was talking to a submissive friend, who is not “getting enough,” and in some ways, often, neither am i. Not complaining, just saying. i want more.
And what would be “enough?” Is this a submissive “thing?” Are we ever satisfied or are we insatiable?
So i’m taking a poll. Now, don’t answer based on last night. Think about the last 3 months and answer based on that, ok?
i know, this was supposed to be a Naomi day, but the next installment isn’t ready yet, and i was wondering about this. So humor me, take the poll.
i’m gonna go answer comments, maybe i’ll post Naomi later today. Tomorrow for sure.
aisha 
we all know how I feel about that
sfp
Yep. And with good reason!
aisha
I had to say “almost–” cause I am able to see Sir two or three days a week.. but I’m greedy. I should be grateful for what I have!!
Dear Nancy,
No, that’s my point – i think we ARE greedy. You weren’t supposed to self-censor based on what you thought you were supposed to feel.
That’s funny. And sweet. Yes, i should be grateful too ~ and usually am! But i still want more.
aisha
I feel like I have a whole blog about not getting enough dominance, attention, control. Actually, I don’t think that’s what my blog was about originally because that’s not what my relationship was about for most of its duration.
-sin
Hi, Sin,
For sure your blog was about the attention, control, and dominance you got for a long time. If it’s shifted a bit lately, well, so has your situation.
hugs,
aisha
You did a poll! I LOVE polls 🙂 So i just did a happy dance in my chair…sorry you missed that. 🙂 *laughing*
Overall, I had to say I get the right balance. Any more “controls” and I’d be frustrated, I think, trying to balance D/s with vanilla life and then I’d just be angry all the time. Even though I’d *want* a bit more, He’s really giving me just what I can manage. I’m a greedy slut, most of the time.
Even when we’re together, and I think …please beat me more…and I’m already hurting…He knows I have to get up the next day…(and be a functioning vanilla woman “recharged” by my day off)…smart Dom that He is.
This is a great post, even if you DID leave me hanging about poor naomi.
🙂
nilla
Hey, ‘Nilla,
i had no idea you liked polls! How cool!
And i’m glad you’re in the just right category – happy for you anyhow. Although. i have to wonder ~ you sound just a tiny bit like Nancy. That sort of “i’d like more, but i know he’s right” thing.
Interesting.
hugs,
aisha
Nice poll! I have to say that I probably am insatiable. There is something about someone else being in control of everything that leaves me constantly wanting, needy, wanton-feeling. And I get a lot, too, so I really can not complain. We have sex somewhere between 5-7 times a week. Almost always there is some form of pain/humiliation/restraint with that. He tells me what to do every day. So how can I still want more?
It’s amazing isn’t it? I don’t know. But you’re right. More just stimulates desire for more.
I suppose we are all wanton greedy sluts. I kinda like that idea!
Aisha
What a great idea. I love getting to hear about how these things effect other people…Sadly, I am one of those people who is ridiculously insatiable. It feels like sexually I’m a twenty year old boy trapped in a (I was going to say middle aged – but really it’s been like this FOREVER) woman’s body. That said, I am grateful for what I do have and compared to most…I have a LOT of sex! Thank you Sir!
Ha, so you’re another one!!! Really, MLB, if I had it to do over, I might ask which thing we want more of. I bet that is not the same for each of us…
I love the idea of you in a 20 year old boys body.
Aisha
I know my situation is a bit different being LDR and with Master now deployed. I don’t feel I need more even when we are able to connect regularly.
We can go weeks with out any sexual dominance at all , but I always feel HIS dominance over me. It is there 24×7 and I guess that is all I really want or need, even if it is not outwardly apparent. He is part of my soul and that is enough.
Maybe I also just feel this way because I know I can’t get more and it is my way of coping.
Hopefully this makes sense?
~faithful
Hi faithful,
It does make sense, and I’m glad it works that way for you!
Hugs,
Aisha
I generally always want more! I think because it’s all very morish, the more you get the more you want, because the more aroused you are the more quick you are to become aroused, etc etc.
However, I’m not, at present, frustrated with not having more, which is different thing entirely
Hi, mamacrow,
I love that – it is “morish!” Why does that make me think of Winnie the Pooh??
And you’re right about the lack of resentment – that’s huge!
Hugs
Aisha.
I’d love more! But then thinking about it – It would almost (but not quite!) be impossible to fit anymore in! I’m not quite sure how that’s happened… ; )
Hi, Sexual life of a wife ~
i know, i think that’s true for a lot of people. i’m not sure what that’s about – that feeling of wanting more when it’s not practical or maybe even realistic, but there it is. We’ve got it.
Thanks for reading ~ and for commenting! Nice to meet you!
aisha
Very nice to meet you too Aisha! ; )
I answered the poll yesterday, but came back to say – two years ago I probably would have said – not enough! This time, though, I answered just right… I’m insanely happy with where we are. If he chose to add more it would not be “too much,” but I don’t feel deprived where we are either.
This led to a lovely between-the-sheets conversation between us last night too, so thank you for that. 🙂
Hi, Conina,
i love that – that it led to that conversation. i’m so glad. 🙂
And glad that you’re “getting enough” too!
aisha
Wolf teases me and calls me a Shark (which are always hungry), because I’m always horny… (well, most of the time). However, over the last 3-4 months between illness, injury and all the time spent apart, has not been ideal.
Once we are back together on a regular basis, I’m looking forward to a date with the FSCT. (yes, I DID say that.) It has been way too long on too many levels.
Hi, Wordwytch,
That’s funny – i can so easily imagine him calling you a Shark. I’m so sorry that you two have had a tough couple of months. May it get better quickly!
And when i hear you complaining about your date with the FSCT, i will remind you of this conversation!
hugs,
aisha
LOL! He does.
I am really working on ‘good thoughts’ on three of the big jobs he’s looking at. 🙂
I think I’ll be so relieved/boneless after my date with the FSCT, that I won’t care. 🙂 However, if I start talking with longing about Armageddon, call 911. 🙂
Ahem – excuse me:
What is FSCT?? All these American abbreviations tend to confuse me.
LadyP
It’s an acronym. Fucking Silver Cake Thingy. A cake server. There is a picture of it at the bottom of this post. http://wordwytch.wordpress.com/2012/04/23/silver-service-finale/
Nilla was the first to call a cake server used to spank her a FSCT, and the name stuck.
It’s one of the ‘toys’ in the toy box.
I think it would be absolutely lovely to explore the idea of “enough” with Sir S face to face. Since I don’t see that happening any time soon, then what I have now has to be enough and is not enough.
Also, Sir has told me that it pleases Him to have me wanting. Go figure. 🙂
night owl
Not nearly enough…