He took my side of the bed.
Yeah, back at the very beginning.
i admit, i asked Him which side of the bed He preferred. He told me. It was the same side i sleep on. Um, used to sleep on.
i figured, ok, no big deal, i’ll just switch sides when He’s here. One or two nights a week, no big deal.
But very quickly, what used to be my side, became His. i started sleeping on the other side of the bed all the time. Way before He started living here. i’m still not sure why, i just did. It just felt more right.
i don’t suppose He planned it, or not exactly anyhow. He couldn’t have, right? But it means He’s on the opposite side of anyone i’ve ever slept with before.
It’s a little thing. Not kinky at all. Not even submissive exactly. Just a subtle difference in how i live.
So the other night, He says, “I was wondering what you call me, when you’re talking about me. I mean, I know you refer to me as your Sir or your Dom in your blog, and with kinky friends. But when you’re with your vanilla friends, what do you call me?”
i must have looked blank, because He adds, helpfully, “You know, am I your partner? Person who lives with you? Lover? What do you call me?”
“O,” enlightened now, i say, “Well, sometimes partner, sometimes the person i cohabit with, sometimes my “friend” with that little pause before friend that means “more than platonic friend. Why?”
He says. “Well, from now on, in casual settings, where it’s appropriate, I want you to refer to me as ‘your old man.'”
“What??” i giggle. “My old man? Really?”
“Yes,” He says, with that air of calm certainty He gets. “In casual settings, where it’s appropriate.”
“Ok,” i say with a shrug, smiling a little.
“My old man.”
That has lots of connotations for me. As an old hippie, it gives me a little rush of nostalgia. We used to use that terminology ~ talking about “my old man” or “my old lady.” i no longer have a clue why we thought it was cool.
And of course it’s a redneck term. Apologies to my non-American readers, or my readers in parts of the country that don’t have rednecks, but there are so many images, stereotypes, and feelings associated with it that way, i don’t even know where to start.
It’s the truck driver in his “wife-beater” t-shirt, coming home from a week on the road, happy to be back with his woman, sitting down to the biscuits and gravy she has ready.
It’s ~ o, gosh, i can’t even put it into words.
i haven’t used it yet either ~ haven’t referred to Him as “my old man.”
And it doesn’t matter.
It’s made me think. Off and on, from time to time, i remember His words. i contemplate what they mean to me. Wonder why He chose them. Try to imagine saying it.
Which group of my friends would it be appropriate with?
Can i pull this off without them thinking i’ve lost my mind? What tone of voice will i use? Can i do it so casually no one notices?
If i say it, and they look at me, all shocked, what will i say? Can i shrug and smile and say, “Hey, He likes to be called that,’ and laugh it off?
i know i don’t have to use it all. He was very careful to say, “Casual setting, when appropriate.” So i can decide it’s not the appropriate time or place for a very long time. Maybe forever.
And i won’t do that.
Isn’t that funny?
Sir says He wants me to call Him “my old man,” and i feel compelled to do it? No, not compelled. Shoot, i don’t know the right word for this either. But i know i’ll figure out how to do it.
In the meantime, i think about it. And maybe that’s what He really wants. That i’m thinking about what He told me to do, and trying to figure out how to do it.
He says it’s all a challenge ~ everything is a test, to see how i react, how i handle it.
“My old man.” “Yeah, that’s my ole man.’ “Me and my old man went to the farm back home last week, got us some corn and a new rooster.” “My old man, he says he’s gonna git me one of them new fancy phones someday,” “My old man, he sure likes his dinner setting on the table ready to eat when He gits home.” “My old man…” It cracks me up.
Ahhh, but i had forgotten this:
Now THAT is my old man.