Three more days til Christmas, and no, i’m not ready, but i’m getting there. Which is all that matters, right? And i’m not stressed about it, just cruising along, having fun.
And happy.
Sir and i have our plans for the weekend in place. We’re doing something Christmas Eve and He’s coming over for a little bit Christmas Day with my family. The day after that, we’re having dinner with his son and son’s girlfriend. So that’s all good.
Last night, He came over and we spent some time playing, but not anything intense. An over-the-knee spanking, which is sweet, and intimate and just stingy enough.
A hickey on my left breast. Nice to see this morning…
And lots of touching and caressing and sensual, sexual activity.
We cuddled for a long time after, and talked. And talked.
It was exactly right.
He laughed a little bit and said He was so relaxed, He felt like He was being lazy, like He should be tying me to a door and whipping my ass instead of laying around letting me stroke Him.
i suggested that maybe He was really a switch, and needed me to Domme Him for a little bit.
He laughed, but there was a touch of steel in His voice as He assured me that wasn’t the case!
And i didn’t really think it was. i think we’re building our vanilla aspect of relationship, if we think of it as split, which it’s not really. It’s really ~ swirled ice cream. What do they call it? Fudge royale?
Yeah.
So it’s not two separate things, but sometimes one is more prominent than the other. Right now we’re nibbling some vanilla.
Part of me wants to hurry up and make everything happen all at the same time RIGHT NOW. But that’s just silly.
Everything will happen in its own time. i’m perfectly content for Him to set the pace.
“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.”
― Thich Nhat Hanh, Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life
aisha 
Wow —
but you know — I think that even balance is what you’ve been looking for
a blended relationship
with
just enough of both
sfp
@Sfp,
Absolutely! I’ve not wanted just kink, or just the play part, and for sure I don’t want all vanilla. Yep.
Just right.
aisha
Life can’t be tying up and whipping all the time, can it?
Mick
@Mick,
Laughing… no, of course not. i don’t even want it to be! Combo’s are good
aisha
Sounds like a simply perfect evening.
Enjoy Enjoy Enjoy!
~faithful
Thanks, Faithful,
It was, and i am!!
aisha
Your comments about wanting everything RIGHT NOW made me smile. That’s like “Patience??? How long is that gonna take???”
Lovely that you want to share each other a bit with family – building in some vanilla there – enough so you know you can be appropriate in a vanilla environment at least.
-sin
@Sin,
Laughing… yes, it’s a lot like that. And you know, it’s not just the kink i want right now, it’s all of it! Sigh. Good thing I can’t always get my way.
And yeah, I’m glad we’re doing a little family too. 🙂 Let’s hope he can keep from whipping out some rope and tying me up; that i don’t just suddenly drop to my knees and start…
O, never mind. Laughing…
aisha
isn’t it grand that you’re building some vanilla time in there too? Life isn’t totally one or the other, and it’s not even perfectly balanced. Love the ice cream analogy…since…you never quite know what you’re getting when you scoop into it…you might get a big portion of vanilla with a swirl of fudge…or you might have a huge river of fudge cutting through all that vanilla…whichever it is, they compliment each other so well that it doesn’t matter all that much which portion you get.
Which is not to say that we don’t *crave* more of the chocolate swirl from time to time, we all do, i think. Or at least i hope so coz i sure do…and if i do there must be others!
Learning to accept that this is how your ice cream will come, in these randomly blended chunks….ah, that is the harder part. Coz we’ve given up the control (or are working on it, LOL!) of the creating of the ice cream.
The ice cream maker is in charge. Its’ good that yours reminds you of that fact too (just exactly the way mine does, too…). In many ways we are living parallel lives…i just asked my Master last night if he wanted me to Dom him…and was firmly told “no fucking way”…not yelled, but as you said? the voice of steel. *laughing* it was delightful!
So again, another blog-post response to your beautiful story this morning. I too am finding the joy in the season, breathing, always breathing…and finding myself…happy.
Blessed be, sweet heart sister!
nilla
Dear ‘Nilla,
i always appreciate your blogpost responses!
Not surprised that your Dom doesn’t want you Domming him either, but it’s good of us to ask, right? And if a submissive offers to Dom her Sir, clearly it’s not for our benefit, but a sacrifice we’d make for therm, so it would still be totally submissive, right? Sheesh, I don’t know why they weren’t more open to it.
lol
Blessed be, sister of mine.
aisha
This is the type of post I was waiting to read. I am so happy that things are taking a positive turn.
Happy Holidays!
smiles
butterfly
Hi, Butterfly,
Thanks! Yes, i’m really happy too!
Happy Holidays back to you!
aisha
The swirl is a great flavor!
ENJOY~!
@Nancy,
Laughing.. it is a great flavor, and yes, i am enjoying!
aisha
I’m so happy for you Aisha! Have a wonderful dinner with famiky and friends. I am do glad you have sorted through things. 🙂
Take care. Sky
Thanks, Sky,
I know it’ll be fun. i sure appreciate your support!
aisha
I haven’t been reading here long, so don’t know the back story, but it sounds like you had a lovely evening. I hope your weekend together with family is everything you want it to be.
@Faerie,
Thanks – and really, the back story doesn’t much matter, it’s the happiness of right now that counts, isn’t it?
I’m glad we’ve met, i’ve been following your blog carefully, hoping that your holidays will be joyful!
aisha